What strikes me about the answers given to questions about narcissism is that they are almost always experiences with partners.People who have lived temporarily under the yoke of a narcissistic partner and suffered or still do and choose to stay.
I have no experience with that, but I grew up in a family with a mother who has bipolar disorder and is narcissistic. Actually, I never respond to questions about narcissism, because as soon as I see such a question, I try to flee from it.I want to hide and not read what others have experienced, because it is too much for me — I can no longer deal with it and want to dissociate me as much as possible from everything that has to do with it. However, if I read that it’s about a parent with narcisne, my curiosity is gaining the desire to dodge it. I want to read júist how it is (have been) for others, because I need that (h) recognition.
At the same time, I suffer from the loyalty that you experience as a child to parent: the kind that ensures that you do not want to tell bad things about your father or mother in public.I am now 45 years old and answer this question anonymously. My mother is not on Quora, so I could answer this question in non-anonymous mode. Yet I don’t. Shame? Loyalty? Such a thing it will be.
A year ago I came across a book that offers so much recognition that I can’t read it in one jerk — it’s too intense.It hurts, the tears flow over my cheeks, the realization comes hard inside — grief for my mother, sadness for my sisters, grief for myself as a child, grief for myself now. So I read about 1 or 2 pages every 2 weeks because I have a feeling that I suffocate when I read more.
Growing up with and being raised by a parent with such a disorder, does something with you… And that is weakly expressed.I could write a lengthy text on that, but I would have to do that in response to a question about how to grow up with a mother with BP and narcissism. Maybe I should do that once… Look up such a question and share my experience.
But to answer the question… I think it comes through the need for (h) Recognition, get acclaim in the form of other reading experiences and get a heart stabbed under the belt (it is not up to you, it lies to him/her).
It is assumed that approximately 6% of the population as narcissist (NPD) is to diagnose.That doesn’t seem like much, but you can count people with strong narcissistic traits on it, but “just” no NPD, you’ll soon be sitting on very serious numbers of people with personality-related psychological problems.
Perhaps because the questioners like to read what is written about them.
I don’t know how rare it is.
But I have had a relationship with so someone.
And then you want to know the VD roofs what you happen to be.
And the rest of the world warn of these people.
Only most say nothing, because they are afraid of their lives.
They are known to poison people who find out who they are.But hard evidence can never be found.
So bad is it
And also I have that chance here.Because I’m talking about it here.
Even though that is without names.
They are very sensitive (and insensitive at the same time, but very big shame) and when you put them to watch, they set everything up for your demise.
From the beginning they steal your life income they all have info about you that they can find.In The time you think everything is still great, they run your entire phone and laptop to download/steal. As they whisper you in your ears that they cannot live without you.
This for own protection.Precautions. So that when it comes to it they can ruin your life. Worse than that you can ruin their lives.
They will always be a step ahead of you.
I think it is also about a kind of pop-psychology phenomenon and the victim culture we are currently in.Laymen use too pas and too unpas terms that they do not really know the meaning of. And people also find it pleasant to stick a psychological disorder on the ex-partner in a pieced relationship. In some cases this will certainly be right, but I do not suspect in a large part of the cases. Flat said: Not every motherfucker is a narcissist.
Many people have a relationship with a person who is narcissistic about them.Jealous. Gladly cared for in detail. Disparaging. Violent.
You may wonder if such a person is narcissistic. In addition, there is an interaction, so the partner also helps to strengthen certain traits.Some people also can’t go with a dog and let him play the boss. So you can also let your partner play the boss without knowing how to do it. Then you call him a narcissist.
By the way, if a relationship runs, the blame always lies with the other.By calling the other a narcissist it is extra easy to blame him. It is also clear that the other has to change and that you always do everything right. Hey, what a relief, so it is not me.
Rare?Previously found rare, something with that someone with Nps will shun a psychiatrist at all times, if it has to play and learns best of how to better manipulate people in how they want to be seen and people can brainwash.
But there is also much abuse of the term. And incomprehension, making it difficult to grasp the difference between ordinary ‘ ego-trippers ‘ ‘ ‘ assyholes ‘ etc and real narcisten.
Using the (translated) excellent explanation from someone else I hope to help to clarify what the difference is. Thanks to Sara Rosseel.
Let’s start with the definition of ego.Ego is an identity that we construct. From an academic perspective, it is a personality formation that deals with the external environment and the internal forces of the psyche. It is formed on the basis of our perceptions, thoughts, ideas and memories. The ego acts as a reference point because it relates past events to actions and future plans and intentions.
As for narcissism, it can be tricky to define.It may be useful to discuss the two main meanings of it. The first is the ‘ everyday ‘ meaning, in which it describes the character errors of a person who estimates himself very high and often boasts of his or her abilities. The second is a psychological term and refers to pathological narcissism – that is, narcissistic personality disorder, which can be extremely damaging.
A person with a narcissistic personality disorder has a twisted sense of importance and outward indicates that they are better than other people.They believe they are special, have a sense of right and they have a lack of empathy.
The ego of the narcissist does not exist.They have no real identity; Instead, they have a fake ego that lives in the false self that they create to make contact with the outside world. Unlike healthy people where the ego is developed internally, narcissists need input from people outside of themselves to shape the false ego of the false self. It is often said that the narcissist is an “identity thief”. Because they lack their own core identity (or real ego), they steal yours.
About the symptoms of narcissistic abuse you can find more information in other answers and blog posts of me on Quora, or of course in one of the many good articles about it on the net.