Because there are many victims who have only become victims because they cannot suspect, know or understand the underlying pattern and the disorder.Because they seem to have found natural but urgent needs seemingly satisfied and wanted more of them. If in such a relationship the often immeasurable damage has been done, it will surely be helpful even for a time to understand and demonize the N. as a monster in order to create the necessary distance and endure the terrible emptiness.
I have met people who have recognized my pattern of the N. solely on the basis of some signals.They told me that I probably have an NPS and would do well to get treatment. From then on I shunned them like the devil the holy water, but did not go into treatment. On the contrary, I have been working on my techniques because I have seen their assessment as terrible, terrible and, of course, secretly debunked. And here is the longer answer to the question, which consists of seven essential factors.
- because the N. in the course of its disturbed or
have developed patterns, strategies and techniques that should and must repeatedly fill the black hole of their needy ego with attention, love, respect and similar real emotions or attitudes in order to feel the kind of justified existence. However, the emotional surrogates thus obtained evaporate after a short time and leave increasingly painful emptiness.
in their hunger.
In addition, there are many other losses of personality factors caused by the variable and increasingly intense behaviors of the N. N. can use any kind of intense emotion as food for its deficiency, so even a grief or rage can be transformed as a feed and thus used. This often leads to destabilizing, humiliating and other forms of behaviour in N. The typical addictive behaviour of the N. creates a need for “more”, “other” or otherwise complementary intake of emotions.
couplings to which he or was delivered itself. These experiences have probably dragged on for a long time and were made bearable because unfeeling with the successive construction of a blockade. This conglomerate of techniques usually works, disturbances or contradictions are hidden and, if too obvious, pushed behind the blockade. It is important to know that many N. believe that in reality they are the one, this image of a person that has evolved from the sum of techniques, the “false ego”. This feeds on a relentless stream of thought, which contains components of the N.-causing currents as well as the countercurrents that constantly contradict them. With this ego, they find themselves in a non-real, non-developing but at least tolerable space.
The reaction of the “unmasked” N. to this is usually almost to completely unbearable for the so-called ” neurotypical people who are entangled in this relationship with “real feelings”. The reaction stems in its intensity from the intensity of a toddler’s emotionality, exercised with the strength of an adult, stems in its control from the total irresponsibility of a toddler, exercised with all the deceit of an adult who never felt the truth or lived. This reaction consists of techniques to which the N. (in his experience) automatically seems to have a right that results from his/her always existing, always kept away suffering.
This adult form of responsible handling, i.e. the ability and will to respond to future similar incidents with a changed behaviour, is missing from the N. It is neither present nor could be stored from the patterns described above. He/she will experience the trigger as new, which ever the trigger that may be incomprehensible to the observer. The N. will react in a similarly panicked, shattered or full of animal rage, because at that moment he is not master but rather the tormented or furious child of his senses.
As with any co-dependence on addictions of all kinds, it has its own structure, history, form of expression and suffering. After a hopefully successful termination of this toxic form of a relationship, therapeutic support by an experienced force is highly recommended.
I just found a wonderful contribution to the work on healing, as with trauma so with the trauma conglomerate of the NPS.That is to be added.
“In prioritizing the event of trauma and its effects, we have been looking towards the nightmare, rather than towards the awakening; towards the intruder, rather than towards the home that was violated.When we are in peace, and we get a shock of conflict, the peace is that has been traumatized. When we are in wellbeing, and we get a shock of sudden pain, it is the wellbeing that has been traumatized. The roots of trauma, therefore, are found not in the trauma, but in the experiential space where the shock happened.”
Georgi Y. Johnson