Maybe you’re using “Fitsporation,” which is wrong for you and confuses your head.
I trained with this rat that called itself Lich – like the fantasy undead creature.Lich was in his mid-50s, but he was a house.He could lift as much as guys who were twice as big, and he loved to distribute the generosity in the form of training counseling for younger people.
This guy was in the gym for at least two hours a day (probably more) and dragged his gallon of water and a clipboard with his workout plan.He trained every day in exactly the same outfit: long jogging pants and a long-sleeved shirt under a wornsweatshirt.Everyone assumed that he was trying to lose weight by sweating.
One day, when we were talking about belly routines, he quickly lifted the edge of his shirt to illustrate a point – and introduced the sharpest pack of eights I’ve ever seen in person.His abdominal muscles had abdominalmuscles.This man was in remarkable condition.
I said, “Lich, my God!”
And he pushed his shirt down again and began to fan away compliments in a borderline panic.’I don’t want anyone to see my body until I’m where I want to be.’
“Where the hell is that?”
He flipped pages on his clipboard. Behind his training record were a few pictures of Bruce Lee, which were cut from magazines.Bruce Lee was more than just his inspiration. Bruce Lee was his Goal .
I think it was here.
Immediately The man was sorry, because no training in the world would make him look like Bruce Lee.
Not even when he did Bruce Lee’s exact workout with the exact same training equipment and ate exactly the same food.
He had a very different physique.This is, not to say a smaller one.
But he didn’t care.Lich’s worn-out clothes weren’t there to sweat. They were there to hide the body he thought was a failure.
People can become disillusioned and even dysmorphic if they identify a specific body type or body part as fitspo.In the words of volleyball star Gabrielle Reece (my idol):
Before you do anything (in the gym), you need to know what you are.
“I’m 6″ with a small waist.” “I’m 5″5″ with a square physique.” You have to be realistic. You can’t be a strong, stocky girl with a big waist, broad shoulders, a flat butt and thin legs and look at a curvy girl and think: This is what I want to look like. You have to work with what you’ve been given. You must.
(I know this is an easier pill to swallow if you’re built like Gabrielle Reece.)
Reece actually simplified a lot because there are so many permutations of body proportions and musculosities.Some things can be compensated. Some can’t. I have long legs and a high waist. I will never have the long torso of Keira Knightley.
That is not a reasonable goal for me.
Not as I wanted to find out.
So if I longed to see that, especially in the mirror, my failure could distract me from the bigger picture.
If you’re in excellent physical shape and your body doesn’t look the way you imagined it to be, that might be why you’re unhappy.
You may need a more realistic idea of what success will look like for you. A professional trainer should be able to look at you objectively and tell you if what you want is achievable.
You can also rate your aesthetics more neutrally and find goals that improve your physique (as opposed to someone else’s).