All right it cannot be to shout at anyone – neither child nor animal (shark fish and grizzly bears in attack mode except ;-)) nor adults – nor even a deaf (adult) adult person, who do not perceive the screaming acoustically but can interpret adequately from the facial expressions and the situation and perhaps even – like any adult otherwise – can react accordingly.With astonishment, with indignation, with rejection and with averting.
When I am sometimes asked by parents what rules would be reasonable for their children to be guided and educated, the question sometimes helps them: Yes, would you meet your partner in this way?I call it the “aspect of respect”.
Screaming can be a form of violence.It can also be a loss of control. In situations where adults tell how and that their hand has slipped, this loss of control is also given – unfortunately in an already advanced version.Shouting can unfortunately lead to this worse form of violence (can not – but does not have to!), because shouting in general fuels the conflict situation rather than calming it down.Seen in this way, n i c h t shouting belong just as much in the educational behavioral compass as the n i c h t beating.
U n d d o c h:
Anyone who is involved in child-rearing and with parents, teachers, carers, etc., who are sometimes challenged by their offspring beyond their borders, also knows how hard children can push someone to the limit and how difficult it is for parents. or, for example, the teachers to deal with the consequences of such a loss of control.Those who live their role as educators authentically will Screaming In retrospect, do not experience it as a gain, but just as a loss of control and to wrestle with it accordingly, to be ashamed and to forgive for it badly.
Punchline: Children are not clich茅d victims in education or education, they are the cause of feelings – regardless of loss, Children often don’t follow the rules of the game, they can react in a mean to malicious way (adult must always ask themselves why – he won’t always find a satisfactory answer) and children can manipulate, trigger, provoke – increasingly consciously – ever more consciously – ever they are getting older.
Education is a big challenge.It does not always succeed equally well in day-to-day business. The child-adult relationship is just as complex as a pure adult relationship. And as adults, we don’t always behave correctly with each other. We can confidently make up the requirement to always meet the demands of our children perfectly.A recipe for failure.
That is why I feel that outsiders are doing well to hold back with hasty condemnations.Educational guidelines are essential as a compass. But they are not a basis for helping adults when they reach their limit. I think that calm and objective support would be needed here.