When does a narcissist stop his ‘game’?

The “Game of the Narcissist” is not a game.Anyway not in the sense you may have understood it and I want to tell you my perspective. You don’t have to agree with it, but I want to tell you. Please imagine it like this:

During the so-called “game” you will be in YOUR very personal Escape Room.
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You suddenly stood at his door one day and their face magically attracted you. You only gently touched the doorknob and invitingly the door swung open for you.Behind it opened up a room that you entered at the beginning full of excitement, wonder and joyful expectation, because – as you knew and felt – something very special is waiting for you. An incomparable and intoxicating adventure began, covering everything that had been done with its spectacular splendour, and all the previous things seemed void. Insignificant and small. Full of enthusiasm or timid, you took your steps in this room and then its door closed. But you didn’t notice that, because your Escape Room caught all your eyes. Something magical was pouring in towards you.
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Its furnishings and every detail were tailor-made.Tailor-made for you. Maybe you love lush golden fabrics, then his windows were hung with them. Maybe you love pretty flowers. They treaded in the middle and in dazzling colors on a table. You may like the sight of soothing aquariums. There was one with colorful fluorescent fish over there. Or you can be cheered on by impressionistic images. They were emblazoned on its walls and you looked at all these beautiful things – I could list you thousands – and felt you arrived exactly HERE. What a good fortune to enter this room and what an irony that you found it so by chance.
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chance?On a spiritual level, they say: there are no coincidences. It falls to you what was due. On a psychological level, it is said that the real adult is relive the traumas of the then real child because he wants to cope with them. For this purpose ( again and again) similarly destructive partners (unconsciously) are chosen.
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It was no accident.It was due that you found it in this room, in your personal escape room, and it was great here. Paradise. Warm and perfect. A cornucopia with eradication of all your desires, desires and longings poured out before you. For a while you enjoyed the beauty of this space and, above all, the grace that you were allowed to enter it in the first place.
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But then something strange happens.An uneasy feeling rises in you and you notice: You are all alone here. There is no one here but you and you also notice that the temperature has dropped noticeably, because it will be noticeably cool. The vase with the magnificent flowers…. a dummy. The golden curtains…. a rough washed-out linen fabric. The Auquarium? A dusty terrarium in which a bird spider remains. And the beautiful pictures on the walls? Ugly expressionist frays laugh at you ugly.
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Your mood changes.What happened? Everything feels different. Abstract and unpleasant. Skuril it’s here and no – not at all nice anymore. And you don’t want to stay any more. So march and go back to the door!

It is closed.You shake and pull at the doorknob, but this door doesn’t move a millimeter. You run to the windows and tear down the linen fabric, but there are no windows behind it. Nothing exists in this room and nothing you want to grab can grab. Everything is rigid and seems to be “just”. All beauty crumbles in your hands. Dissolves. Panic spreads and you start searching. You have to get out of here somehow. There must be a clue somewhere, but no – this space is a single overwhelming puzzle. You will be given a few messages here and there. A few fleeting words like projection, Danger toxic!or find your belief!
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Projectors?!?What the hell is this? What should you do with it and what kind of sentence should you find? “Danger” ?!? OMG that doesn’t sound good and how does it all fit together?!?
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You despair.Anger, hunger, thirst, fear and weakness spread within you and the light in this room is getting darker. What was once inviting, luminous, beautiful and as if created for you turns out to be an insoluble mystery, catapults you into a cruel, sinister, ugly, freezing reality and keeps you trapped there.
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No – you never wanted to be here and you want to get out of here now.You scour all the drawers, search in every corner, turn every stone around, but you can’t find a solution to escape. The frays on the walls laugh vehemently and the bird spider rejoices. You are stuck here and your powers are minimized with every day you spend here. For sure… someone has deliberately locked you here. Who comes to mind first? This person doesn’t help you and you’re calling him. Whining, whimpering, cursing, raging in this room and yet none of your calls seem to be effective.
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Now you have two options.
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•xa01.You give yourself to your destiny as the victim of this dark captivity in this “game”. Furiously, make all furniture short and small or caubled in embryonic position in any corner of this darkness.
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•xa02.You pull yourself together and pull yourself out.
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You should (r)undress?
yes!Tear all your clothes off your body, shake them out neatly and search through all the pockets of your clothes! Put in each bag and turn the clothes all on the left, because…
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…. you carry the cursed key for this miserable door somewhere at YOU.Maybe he is sewn into the hem of a trouser leg or does the vulture know what hiding place he is in. Anyway, YOU have the key with which you can open the door and free yourself and no one else.
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The narcissist cannot stop the “game” because he did not “create” it.He just led you to the door of this room, but you went in yourself. Remember what you liked so much in this room! What exactly had this pull on you that caused you to take your steps in here? Did you make you linger when it got much cooler? And remember how you felt when the dummies all collapsed! Did you feel abandoned? Needy? Helpless? Awkward?
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Your narcissist has led you to you and you have to solve the puzzle yourself, because your Escape Room is a sophisticated overall construct.Accurate and architecturally masterful built by your parents, past relationships, imprints, injuries and experiences of your past. However, your past has long since put the key in your pocket and you are looking in the wrong place if you are looking for it on the outside.You are helped with small hints and messages on the jumps, but you have got lost too far and I admit that the hints are extremely tricky.You can’t interpret what’s going on there because you don’t have access to you. No access to the rules of the game that run in your subconscious. Look inward, search for clues and put puzzle pieces around puzzle pieces piece by piece! Get completely naked for it, put off everything you carry with you and then the key will fall right in front of your feet! You can then pick it up, open the door and leave this room. This does not require your narcissists, for he had only shown you the door. It has nothing to do with your Escape Room, because it is your resurrected past. It is your interior which has got a shape in the outside. has become visible.
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YOU have the key for his door, because you BIST the key.You must and can finish the game, solve the puzzle and find a way out, because…
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•xa0… THE ANSWER IS YOU. The narcissist reflects you (only).He doesn’t have the power and control to play a game with you. You give it to him. Of course, he uses manipulative behaviors, but once you’ve realized that, you can evade it by standing up for your rules of the game.

Keep your playing surface clean and uphold your game rules!You always direct in every game and if you don’t, then the answer is always you.

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