I think the environment might notice it before the person sees it himself.
So when you start to feel that people close to you – as well as colleagues, fellow students, and random people in everyday life – feel provoked by your behavior or drunkenness, or distance yourself from you, then it’s high time to wonder if you have a problem.Few people probably say it straight; most of them have to perceive their reaction indirectly.
In this situation, however, many alcoholics would probably only bury themselves deeper into their own self-pity: “Nobody likes me … they avoid me … let me down!” Then ask yourself: “But why?”
All drugs first destroy the finest, highest human properties.What was called “moral” by a somewhat old-fashioned term. This includes self-awareness, the ability to distinguish between good and bad, and empathy (to grasp the finest feelings of our fellow human beings, as well as to put themselves in their position).
I’m not an alcoholic, but I see it from the other side – the relative, because I’ve had people with mild addiction problems in the immediate vicinity.I am generally far too nice, and it has taken me a long time to understand that such people also harm me by their behaviour. But above all, of course, yourself.
As a family member or friend, you should not accept it.Telling such a person to stop can help him in the long run, even if he becomes more lonely in the short term.
So that was from the point of view of others, and from a social/interpersonal perspective.I think this is important, as many addicts may forget it in their self-pity. Thinking of others can make us better people. Of course, we also have a right to understand and help others when we make an effort.
Secondly, there is concrete, chemical, physical addiction.This is another step. Others have described it very well in their answers. If you no longer function normally without alcohol, you are clearly addicted. At this stage, therapy, doctors and, if necessary, medications help quite well. Deficiency symptoms such as vitamin B deficiency should also be corrected. Eat well and properly, move around, etc. Dismiss alcoholic friends and habits.
Thirdly, alcohol can also cause problems without being actually addicted.We have actually seen almost all of us.Alcohol is a poison. If you occasionally miss your duties in the morning (school, work or other appointments) because you have celebrated at night. That happened to me sometimes when I was 20-25 and i was going out too much. In this case, one should be aware of one’s priorities and plan better. Maybe just go out without drinking, or limit it to 2-3 beers.
(If you are shy or anxious, you should not drink, but practice without getting along without alcohol – others here on Quora have described very convincingly how they went through this project and changed, bolder, happier and more have been made confident.I’d like to see a try at 20.)
As I said, I am not quite able to comment on the alcoholic’s point of view, as I usually only drink 0-3 glasses a week.But it is important for me to say what it looks like from the other side. I hate the smell and behavior of drunken people. It took me years to understand this, because I am very tolerant by nature. I also hate being addicted to anything, be it chocolate, coffee, sugar or alcohol. I smoked once for 2 weeks when I was 15 and attending boarding school, but when I felt I was starting to like it, I stopped. I don’t think I have a lot of addictive potential – that’s luck, of course, rather than any performance.
Alcohol is very much rooted in northern European culture, but it does not have to be so.Some theses that I would like to spread:
- you don’t have to drink to have fun or to relax
- Alcohol is a poison, you can never take it without consequences, but the damage depends on the dose – up to 1-(2) glasses can break down our body quite well
- Alcohol is a destroyer like fire – it can build something new and exciting in small doses and under control, but can destroy a lot if it gets out of control
- Happiness and tranquility you find in yourself (meditation is very good), and in the connection with nature and other living beings – never by numbing substances
- know your weaknesses; practice what you can’t do so well; seek help
- make your fellow human beings happy, treat them well – this can also sometimes distract the focus from your own problems
Finally, there are very good options and many offers in terms of alcohol treatment.Alcoholics are privileged in this respect if they only want to accept the help. For many other diseases, the situation of patients is much worse.
If any method doesn’t work, then you’re trying something else that suits you.Relapses are also common in every course of the disease. But you have to be serious and honest with yourself. Peer-to-peer help is, by the way, the very best thing about all human problems, which is why, for example, the Alcoholics Anonymous are also successful.