I live a very lonely life here: I have just gone through a divorce and have started my whole life again, so yes, there have been a few dimps.
My way of dealing with this is perhaps not the most exemplary, but I will share my own experience anyway:
– Take Care of yourself: What indulgence will do you well.Buy something you like, go to the spa, do yoga or sport.
– Use social media:It is not for nothing that they are called “social”.Some people argue that social media are just so fake, but I believe they are what you make of it. I keep my social media very realistic. I share everything openly and candidly. I get an appropriate answer and support when I need it. Tips and ideas on how you can become better or how to deal with a particular situation. Sometimes I feel despite the distance loved by some of my virtual friends, and that helps.
– Listen to music and dance as if no one is watching, even only in your own living room.(Getting drunk while dancing can help temporarily, although you may regret it in the morning after dancing).
– Write.That’s my secret weapon since I was 12 years old. Write it all out. My pain express by words.
– Start a creative project, something fun that you always wanted to do, but never dared to do.
– Healthy eating and drinking enough water: it sounds silly, but it does help your sanity.A course of probiotics also helps: Remember that your gut is your second brain.
– Get help from a professional: If all else fails, there are professionals who will hear you and will help you.
What you are doing right now is good.Find contact, there are people who help you. Anywhere and anytime
A precipitous vote is usually transient.But instead of being passively waiting for you to feel good again, you can also try to get out of the dip.
Dejection without direct cause, such as sickness or death, is usually caused by an accumulation of a number of smaller setbacks.
They put your resilience to the test.
Often, the irrational thoughts that set you down and maintain your dejection.Then realize that you tend to think irrational. Just by that consciousness you are putting a big step towards a better mood.
6 thinking mistakes that cause a dip
Think error 1: black and white thinking.You think in extremes and do not have an eye for nuances. “Now I’m definitely fired.”
Think error 2: selective observation.You see the stain on your pants and therefore experience the whole situation/day as negative.
Think Error 3: Generalize.You’ll go for an exam and you’ll never get that diploma.
Think error 4: negative thinking.You get a compliment on your work and think, “she says that to wear off, she definitely wants something from me.”
Think Error 5: fillIn your thoughts.Your colleague does not give you a hand in the morning and you immediately think that he should not.
Think error 6: You see your feelings as ‘ evidence ‘ that your thought is correct. ‘ I feel that everything is disappointing today, so everything is against it. ‘ Feelings say at most something about how you experience the facts.
Once you are aware of the thinking mistakes you make, you can change something about it.Replace them with rational thoughts. These are facts-based and lead to the effect you desire.If your colleague Is not friendly to you, that does not mean that he never wants to have anything to do with you. Just ask him how it came that he did so.
I do not claim that from now on a finger cut will replace irrational thoughts with rational.It requires some training and possibly coaching. In doing so, confront yourself with your doom fantasies. How do you do that? Ask yourself these questions:
- What evidence exists for the correctnessof my thought?
- Is there any evidence for the correctness of my thought?
- What’s the worst that can happen?
- Are there any positive possibilities?
- Who would I be without this thought?
- What is a more rational thought?
Not easy to ask yourself these questions if you are in a dip.That’s why you can also use a coach. And also think about what you can cheer up: Go sports, change something in your home, buy something fun,… If you get an eye for the positive sides of life again. This way you are more likely to get out of the negative thoughts spiral.
Did you know that there is such a thing as the listening line?
Go hiking, greet the people you come across, sit next to someone sitting on a park bench.Make a chat with the man who is hoe to the streets in the street. Or maybe have a look at that neighborhood house anyway. Make sure you are among the people and have some interaction, people are group animals, we need each other to feel good.