This thing?Don’t have a name? This thing is part of you. So actually-this is you. The problem? Fortunately, the question illustrates that very well: you take no direction, you are suggesting that something in you is living what is outside your will to do things.
If you want to get control of this ‘ thing ‘ you must first accept that it is yours. See your body as a house, you as yourself who lives in it and this ‘ thing ‘ as a stray dog that just appears to show up every time.
Accept that this stray dog belongs to the house.It is also just a fact. He comes back every time, so for the dog your house is apparently also his home. You suffer from what he does. He poops in the grass, bites your furniture and also makes a false against you.
If this were the real life in which you had bought a dog.Would you allow that behavior? No sure anyway? You would think of yourself, ‘ Where did it go wrong? ‘, and (hopefully) ‘ This beast must be trained! ‘
And that brings us back to the metaphorical house you live in.So there is a dog around that will let you go his way. Why is that dog?
Think about that.
What to do with this stray dog?
1.Watch out when he’s showing up. You probably don’t see him all the time, but only in certain situations. Possible in situations where you dare not take a decision, doubt or are uncertain and do not know well what to do.
2.If you find out that the dog only pops up, ask yourself what this dog will do. You call it sabreating. The dog? It only does what he is good at, protecting. If you do not give him instructions, it can be just that he attacks your friends. Here you are not happy and then he attacks you. After all, you are the one who causes pain (by yourself) and this dog is programmed to prevent pain.
3.When you have watched yourself for a while and have followed the dog’s pattern and know that he only comes on days at risk and that his only goal is to protect you, you can go to look at the dog a little better. At the moment he is wild. Unstructured. Unmannered and so on. If you want to win him for you, you will have to convince him of the fact that you can stand up for yourself. At this moment he is not convinced that you can do this, so he comes every time. (As if called out of nowhere..) Next time you see him, try to take the direction. Say what you think against that one person, come for yourself. Proof that you don’t need the dog.
All this is not so one two three done, this needs time and practice.
It will often happen in the beginning that you take the direction too late and the dog is going to take his plan again.It is then important that you realise ‘ the dog belongs to me ‘ ‘ He wants to protect me ‘ and ‘ I am going to do my best. ‘ For yourself, it will also be quite accustomed to come to yourself once. You have apparently not done that for years, otherwise you were not having this problem:)
Flashforward: This dog will eventually become your best friend.Your support and commitment. You back up for if you have a hard day. Right now you are the back up-and this is not how it belongs. You are the boss, he is an ego. He knows his place, but likes to take yours if you do not stand.
‘, ‘ I have edited this question in decent Dutch, without disturbing anglicisms like ‘ this thing in me ‘.In our language, you never say ‘ this thing ‘ because that is a blast. We say such things more implicitly. I’m not going to repeat my translation here. But it often happens that I get language errors from questions, while a minute later the mistakes just stand again. Almost always it is ugly anglicisms in both sentence structure and word choice. Why does it change back and keep the errors?
“,” Hard to say.There is apparently something in you that sabots you and penalizes you. I have no idea what it is or where it comes from. But it is like driving with the handbrake on. This way you don’t get ahead. If you are really bothered by this, I would like to hear a therapist.