What forgiveness myths are you aware of?

“The Greek word aphi-miused in the New Testament, which was translated as “forgive/ forgiven”, contained a wide range of meanings, including:
⚑ (debt/s),
⚑ (something or someone) to leave in peace/ let go,
⚑ (a (miss) act to allow/let go through,
⚑ (something or someone) to grant,
⚑ to remove/withdraw,
⚑ (something or someone) to send away,
⚑ to leave /give up and even
⚑ file for divorce /to get divorced.”
Maria Mayo, 5 Myths About Forgiveness In The Bible August 2011

Note:Translations of the term forgiveness from Aramaic, the language of Jesus, read, among other things, release, dissolve or purify.

“”Forgiveness is a relationship-oriented process.

‘I forgive you’ is the answer to a heartwarming apology [* and a request for forgiveness,’ says [Judith Herman.If the apology is not made, the forgiveness process cannot take place. And “real remorse for an offender is a rare miracle,”Herman writes after decades of experience.If a victim tries to forgive an offender who has never asked for forgiveness or has no remorse and still lies and refuses to admit his own wrongdoing, it would be a fruitless act, as if he was kissing his face in the mirror. A trauma survivor must tell her story to an “open-minded, compassionate witness,” her therapist, her closest friends – and other survivors in therapy or self-help groups – until she realizes that she has to mourn the circumstance, that she will probably never be asked for forgiveness.”
Dr.Judith Lewis Herman (*1942) American psychiatrist, professor of clinical psychology, Harvard Medical School, clinical project manager for victims of violence, author, quoted in: Christina Robb, American author, This Changes Everything. The Relational Revolution in Psychology [This makes everything different.Relationship-Oriented Development in Psychology, p. 353, Farrar, Straus and Giroux, New York, February 21, 2006

The American historian and religious scholar Maria Mayo argues that the idea of forgiveness as a psychological or emotional state originated from the moral philosophy of the 18th century, not from the writings of the New Testament. the first century.
Mayo has stirs up a sack of biblical myths about forgiveness:

  1. Jesus did not teach unconditional forgiveness.
  2. Jesus did not forgive the adulteress.
  3. Jesus on the cross did not forgive his attackers.
  4. Jesus’ recommendation to “hold the other cheek” is not an act of forgiveness.
  5. Forgiveness in itself does not liberate.

A slain man is also said to “hold the other cheek.”
Luke 6, 29 (NT) • Matthew 5, 39 (NT)

  • This phrase is not an antithesis to the Old Testament “eye for eye” rules of conduct, which de facto initiate a campaign of retaliation.
    If one is beaten to “hold the other cheek”, it is neither an act of forgiveness nor in the days of Jesus it was a sign of tolerance.

To hold the other cheek was to challenge the attacker to strike with his left “unclean” hand (which was forbidden) or at best with the open right hand, which was seen as a sign of equality. Holding the other cheek was therefore an act of non-violentresistance.
In the face of (verbal) aggression, Jesus recommended that the attacker be ignored first.He recommended that those who were subjected to physical violence immediately challenge the opponent as described above. In any case, he advised to pray for offenders.

The imperative of passivity in the widespread concept of “holding the other cheek” makes sense in a world without aggressors.It gives the victims of violence a sense of superiority on the other side, while favoring the intentions of the secular rulers and would-be rulers.

Blasphemy against the Holy Spirit
Matthew 12, 31-32 • Mark 3, 29 (NT) • Luke 12, 10 (NT)

  • Blasphemy means talking badly against others or shaving.

What is meant by “blasphemy against the Holy Spirit” is a matter of interpretation. It was clearly stated, however, that there is a sin that God does not forgive under any circumstances. Assuming Jesus taught unconditional forgiveness, Then God would be exempt from this rule.

Typical example of Christian forgiveness
Jesus allegedly forgives the adulteress.
John 8: 1-11 (NT) • John 8, 7 (NT) • John 8: 11 (NT)

  • Jesus confronted a crowd that was about to stone an adulteress, saying,“Whoever is without sin of you, cast a stone at her first.”
    No one moved to attack the woman.

Jesus said to her, “I donot condemn you either.Go and sin no more from now on!”
The Greek term aphi’mi, which is most often translated as “forgiveness”, does not appear in this story.
Jewish wisdom teaches that only the victim can forgive his perpetrator. Since the lady Jesus had done nothing, nothing had happened that he could have forgiven her.His refusal to condemn them was rather a lesson for those present on the subject of prejudice and judgment, not an expression of forgiveness.

Jesus lamenting on the cross
Luke 23, 34 (NT) • Luke 6, 38 (NT)

  • “Fatherforgive them, for they do not know what they aredoing.” Jesus did not forgive his persecutors, but prayed that God would do so.
    Jesus taught his disciples that repentance is a prerequisite for forgiveness.

He instructed them,“Pray for those who insult you!”

For the sake of salvation, Jesus warned in Matthew 18:35 (NT)

  • So my Heavenly Father will treat each of you who does not give heartilyto his brother. “
    Jesus did not express psychological concerns, nor does the Bible suggest that forgiveness is beneficial to the physical or mental health of the forgiving.

In the days of Jesus, forgiveness was a verb of activity, and the teachings of Jesus served as measures for the benefit of social well-being, both on earth and in the post-death world.

“Forgiveness frees the victim.”

  • Forgiveness serves the peace of mind of the forgiving, who wants to protect himself from the threatened torture and atrocities in life after death.

Source: Biblical forgiveness myths – Maria Mayo



Forgiveness myests

  1. Forgiveness means that what happened was fine.
  2. If I forgive, it could happen to me again.
  3. I have to “forgive and forget”.
  4. When I forgive, it means that I have to reconcile with the person.
  5. If I don’t forgive, I’m a bad person.
  6. After I forgive, I will never feel angry or hurt again.

Article Myths of Forgiveness.

“Forgive and Remember,” presented by the American journal Psychology Today, Dr. Will Meek, psychologist, July 26, 2012


  1. Myth 1: Forgiveness/forgiveness/reconciliation towards the perpetrator causes a healing in adult victims of childhood violence.
  2. Myth 2: Forgiveness/forgiveness/reconciliation makes our world better.
    The forgiveness of the ☛ confirms oppressive, exploitative power relations.
    -U2002-u2002-u2002☛ forgiveness benefits the child’s abusers and may harm the victims.
  3. Myth 3: Forgiveness reduces anger, hatred and revenge.

Source: Article Myth of Forgiveness, presented by NetworkB, January 24, 2012

[* Source: Extending genuine apologies to reestablish trust

See also the Infoblock: Forgiveness Research

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