When you look back at your own life, you can certainly remember moments where you have been rejected for something: a promotion, a job, a project, a team, a function in an association, or maybe you were rejected by a friend whose You thought it was the true.
At such a moment rejection can feel destructive.
Most of us would not feel comfortable telling us about our rejections and our failure.
We keep those things to ourselves, because we are afraid that we would be “condemned” again or that people would find us less worthy.We only play them in our heads when we doubt ourselves or feel insecure about us.
But we forget one thing… namely that this happens to EVERYONE.
People are rejected all the time. Even people we see as a success now.
Harry Potter writer JK Rowling was rejected by 12 publishing houses.Madonna was once fired at Dunkin’ Donuts. And when her band ‘ The Breakfast Club ‘ was dumped by the record company, she decided to go solo. Vogue-editor-in-chief Anna Wintour was once fired at Harper’s Bazaar. Similar stories are about The Beatles -no record company wanted to draw them, and Walt Disney was fired for ‘ lack of imagination ‘.
Dealing with rejection is a painful but normal part of our growth as a human being.
While one door seems to strike close in our face, another opens.You will learn to find the courage to continue through your vulnerability.
Most people give up, and admit to their limiting beliefs: they are stuck in self-doubt.
These are three ways to deal positively with rejection.
1.Connect back to your WHY
Take some time for yourself.And remind yourself of your WHY, so that you will regain clarity instead of doubting yourself.
Why do you want to succeed?How will your life look, and how will you feel when you finally succeed?
Let courage overcome your fear.Let fear not determine your decisions.
Be prepared to feel fear, and do it anyway
When you come out of your comfort zone, you grow as a human being.
You stretch yourself and create a new -bigger -comfort zone.
That requires courage and perseverance because it may not always be comfortable and rather exciting.
Learn to feel comfortable in uncomfortable situations. Choose to be courageous.Focus on what is important to you and believe in yourself.
3.Protect your confidence
Stop listening to that voice in your mind that hampers you.For it does not speak the truth.
Develop a deeper understanding of your emotions, strengths and limitations.Recognize how negative patterns can overwhelm you and cause stress. Unleash emotions that hinder you. You can learn this by keeping a diary.
See obstacles as opportunities on your way.Rejection is a way to grow. It can make you stronger, more determined and more successful.
Not only in relationships, but also in other areas you get to deal with rejection.
But do not try to take it too personally. Often the rejection has nothing to do with you and everything with the person who rejected you.
The better you can deal with rejection, the stronger your life is.