What did you learn after many mistakes?

That I’m enough.

For years, I thought I was too bad for or for it, and I manipulated myself over and over again.

Of course, you can and should always develop in your areas of interest if you do not want to fall into a kind of everyday routine.But what I said at the beginning is that I already have everything that is necessary to be successful. I may not yet be as successful in the desired field (whether it is family, love life, profession, hobby, soft skills, etc.) as I would like. BUT I am already by nature enough to achieve all these things SUFFICIENT.

I’m never going to be SO strong we Arnold Schwarzenegger.VIELLEICHT never as smart as Stephen Hawking. VIELLEICHT never as famous as Ed Sheeran. VIELLEICHT never as rich as Bill Gates. VIELLEICHT never as beautiful as Brad Pitt. But that is not necessary, because I am enough to be able to live enough. And that is the crux of the matter: it will be enough.

Like all those well-known notoriety, I have weaknesses.But those individuals, despite their weaknesses, as we all have them, simply took advantage of the circumstances they had and simply did what they themselves thought was right in the moments at which they were, TROTZ of their weaknesses. The fact that there is still room for improvement is not bad, but on the contrary desirable, since otherwise the mentioned daily routine would come quite quickly and can be overwhelming, as some of the readers of this answer may have, because they feel stagnating.

Of course, there is no one hundred percent guarantee of success and those successful individuals are just the tip of the iceberg and extreme examples.Certain coincidences, such as genetics, the parental home in which you were born, or having the “right” idea at the “right” time, i.e. luck, also play a role in order to become so big, even if some of those people would like to claim that this was all their own merit. The intelligent among those know that this is not the case. But I maintain that none of these people knew that they had the right idea at the right time. I don’t think any of those extreme examples really knew how what they were doing would affect 10, 20, 30 years. And what about the other people who are satisfied? The many millions of people who do what they think are right every day? If the faith was not there enough to do what they do, they probably wouldn’t. And these are not genetic superhumans. Nor a Bill Gates.

The manager of the company next door can be a terrible cook.The chief surgeon from the nearest hospital can only park badly. Your neighbor with the outwardly great family might argue with his wife every day at home. Your sister with a biochemistry scholarship at an elite university may be extremely afraid of darkness, so the light burns all night. The Porsche driver who proudly drives past you every morning when you leave the front door may have lost his daughter to leukaemia 10 years ago. The sporty guy who jogs along your doorstep every day, constantly attracting the attention of women, may have severe depression and therefore plunges so much into the sport to get along in life.

The thing is, we don’t know.Of course, these can also be perfect people. The question is: do you really believe this? The only thing most likely true is that these people only show what they want to show. As a society, we get upset that people on social media often fake a life they don’t have, but aren’t we almost all doing it in real life? Do we not have masks constantly adapted to the situation in order to achieve whatever? I can recommend myself to sit on a bench in a busy public place and just watch the people and on closer inspection you might notice: The woman with the top model figure has hair on her toes. The “important”-looking suit wearer may only have a cheap suit off the pole. The girl, who is currently taking photos for Instagram and lying in a dreamlike flower meadow in the final photo, pulls her belly in and in reality has just moved on to the only two square metres of grass not used as a grave in the city cemetery next to a doner shop Placed. As a hobby photographer, I can say that light and viewing angles can make a fries stall, where the fat has not been changed for 5 days, look like a 3 Michelin star restaurant, exaggerated.

Once again, we only show what we want to show, and depending on the situation, it may not always be helpful to reveal everything.I do not mean that one deliberately lies in order to create a certain image and I also see it critically. In the main, one even harms oneself, as one could eventually find oneself in need of explanation. But it is not always just a matter of lying: silence is also an option and, as we know, gold. If you tell new acquaintances only the negative things about yourself from the beginning, this naturally forms a certain opinion in their minds about one. So just let things run without feeling the urge, just because there is just 5 seconds of silence in the conversation to mention the pimple on your own butt. An honest “I just don’t know what to say” may make it easier for the other person not to be compulsively smalltalk, because in truth this person doesn’t know what to say.

No one is perfect at any time.The difference between success and failure is often simply a change of viewing angle and viewing distance. Of course, a yoghurt cup on the side of the road is unattractive. But the view down into the wooded valley is still beautiful. And even if the yoghurt cup disturbs, you just pick it up and throw it into the next bin. Some people have felt a lot of yoghurt cups in their heads. But is that really the case or have we even just forgotten to raise our heads and maybe you won’t even see the cups? respectively. In every forest there is rubbish somewhere? It’s just like that. And if you are often at this point in the forest, you probably develop the interest to dispose of the mountain yoghurt cup automatically at some point, because why should you be voluntarily under a pile of yoghurt cups? And when other people throw these yoghurt cups there, just don’t allow it anymore, because in this case it’s your own forest, so you also have the right to not let those people into your forest anymore. In English: When criticism of you refers to details, but those critics unnecessarily inflate these details for whatever reason, simply ignore them, even if you are this critic yourself. Think about the criticism and justified criticism, of course, you can follow up, but if that criticism doesn’t open up to you as justified, then you’re not. Book recommendation at this point: The subtle art of not giving a f*ck. It is also available in German version.

In the sense: just do what you can.And that’s usually much more than you think. But you are enough to live enough. 70% are usually so beautiful that the missing 30% in the overall picture are not noticeable at all. Especially foreign people do not, because they only see what you show them. And your 70% may be 95% for whom else. And if not, but perhaps only 20%, then this person is simply not the right friend, partner, colleague, employer, etc. For you. VIELLEICHT it’s up to you. Then something changes. But if you are the one in the moment you really think you are (note: identity is a construct, i.e. constantly changeable), then that is simply the case. Maybe just talk about it. Honest, respectful communication can nip conflicts in the bud before they arise. And if you are both people: meditation and self-reflection and catching up with honest foreign opinions of other people can often change your own perspective significantly. Self-perception is not always the same as foreign perception. Instead of stiffening up on the negative details that only you know, just look at how other people see you. It is often clear that the only true enemy in life so far has been only oneself.

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