Have you ever repaired a defective toy or device by knocking it out on the side? This ‘ One-Whack-Repair strategy ‘ works much more often than expected.(Although I haven’t had much success with forgotten passwords with this strategy.)
The following six simple questions do the same in decisions: they give a ‘ whack ‘ to improve your decisions. They are all based on a quick perspective shift or a redefinition of a dilemma.For a full explanation of why these “tricks” work, see the book decides (Decisive).If you struggle with a decision, see if any of these 6 simple questions can give a useful shock in your thinking. And if so, please send me a message.
1.Imagine that the option you are currently considering is gone.It is no longer feasible. What more could you do?
Why this question works: a common decision-making trap is narrow framing, which means that we get stuck in our dilemma in one way, or that we do not consider other options available to us.By forcing ourselves to generate a second alternative -we cannot do what we originally thought -we can often bring a new insight to the top.
2.Imagine that the alternative you are currently considering will prove a terrible decision .Where could you find the proof of this?
Why this question works: the most damaging enemy of good decision making is probably “confirmation bias”, which is our tendency to seek information that supports what we want it to be ‘ true ‘, while we are not so keen to look for Conflicting information.This question forces you to search for information that is not right.
3.How can you immerse a toe in the decision without immersing yourself?
Why this question works: When deciding on what is good for themselves, people usually make a gamble.Think of the student who enrolls in the law study, because she thinks she will love life as a lawyer, or the knowledge worker who stops his job to get a diploma in social work, convinced that he will live so a more meaningful life. But you don’t have to recommend , when you can know . The student can work for 3 months in a law firm, and the knowledge worker can follow a real social worker at the weekend or in the evening.Such an experiment is a weapon for you with real information about your possibilities.
[For personal decisions What would you recommend your best friend to do if he/she was in the same situation?
Why this question works: This can be the most powerful question for solving personal decisions.She sounds deceptively simple. But I have already seen the strength of this question in practice: When I asked people who had been tormented for months about a decision to be taken, this question came out in 10 seconds. And that surprised them often.
5.[For professional decisions if you were to be replaced tomorrow, what would your successor do to your dilemma?
Why this question works: This is the professional version of the “best friend” question.This question is also based on a simple perspective shift to help you loosen up emotions in the short term and see the bigger picture more clearly. In his autobiography , Andy Grove, THE former CEO of Intel, tells a great story about using this question to solve one of the hardest decisions from his career.
6.Suppose we are 6 months further, which evidence would make you withdraw this decision? And what proof would you be double and thick behind this decision?
Why this question works: a curious aspect of our decision-making is that we treat our choices as permanent while they are provisional in almost all cases.For example: We think (but do not know) that a certain employee is the right person for an open function.We think (but don’t know) that we like to start your own business.We think (but do not know) that a particular plan will be effective.So, because our decisions are simply our “best guesses” at any given time, shouldn’t we pay more attention to the circumstances that would make us reconsiderthose decisions?
And a bonus: beware of “whether or not” decisions!
This is why: if a friend or colleague comes to you with a “whether or not” decision -“I wonder ifI would resign or not“, “I wonder if I would buya new smartphone ” -then that’s a sign da They can be trapped in a limited frame.They only consider one option while there are many more.Try to challenge them with question 1 from the list above.
The self image becomes more stable as it will become less dependent on others.
If you learn to project judgments and opinions of others, your self-image will be more stable.
Find silence and tranquility in yourself, even if it is not as it should go is the key.
Of those experiences learn self-control and that is the property to become more decision-making.
Keeping a vision or goal in mind and working on it.