Some people use denial to deal with things, but do these people really live their lives to the fullest?

That depends entirely on it.

I do to displacement.Things have happened in my life that I cannot forget, but that hurt me very much. I can’t forget them, they always stay present. I cannot forgive because it is at the basis of what my life is.

Don’t get me wrong, I love very much myself, and I find myself a good person.But I do not have a lot to show in my life.

High school not finished.

No studies, trainings, courses.

Chronic depression.

And on top of that there was a chronic disease that made it impossible for me to catch up or make up for one thing.

How do you forgive that?I think, quite frankly, that that cannot, and quite frankly I refuse to forgive that too, because it is really too bad.

I could have been so much.And now I couldn’t do anything.

The only thing I know to invent is displacement.I call that “throw a doily over it.” That birthday gift that you can’t throw away because it was from your mother, but when she comes to visit she expects to see it? Doily over it. That ugly place on the parquet floor? Doily over it.

So I do that.

And this is precisely why I live fully.

But: I only do that with things I have no control over and/or that I cannot change.

If you do not know what to do, you will be deficient.

Poe, that’s a question with many sides.

In general, you may think that it is not the best way, and that you deprive yourself of a chance to learn, instead of denying it, something of it.

But still.

If it is something that you can do nothing about, or could have done, or what you should do better in the future, (see also this answer), then I think from my own experience that “trying to think too much” is a good idea , or perhaps the best possible solution.

That’s not always easy, but it can be just the only way to deal with it.

I would say not.Denial means you haven’t accepted it yet.

No, as soon as you live in denial you are always limited.

Because you have difficulty accepting things or just don’t want to see them.This is very limited.

And so you’ll never come out of difficult emotions or decisions, because you’re always in denial.

For others, this can also be annoying so think you will have a lot of trouble to live to the fullest.

No, denial is a lie.

Denial is a ripe defense mechanism.

What I do know is that what you continue to deny, will also come back in your life again.By continuing to deny something you are going to act differently than when you deal with things and let go.

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