Should adoptions by gay couples be allowed?

It IS allowed with us.Nor is it forbidden for these couples to have their own children (except through surrogacy, the prohibition of which I find questionable in D-d).

I have the feeling that the undertone of the question is homophobic, and that is that there is a fear behind the question that children may be abused, educated to homosexuality or cause other problems.

If the people who ask such questions do not use the welfare of children as a pretext for homophobic defamacy, as it is.AfD, some religious-oriented people etc do, but really worry about children in these families, I think these and similar questions are justified.

As an educator, father, grandpa and gay, I dealt with it.

I would like to mention some arguments for rainbow families.

As far as child abuse is concerned.

Yes, cases of abuse in such families cannot unfortunately be ruled out.We will certainly see such scandals. But does this not happen in conventional families? Will the question of whether adaptation by heterosexual couples should be allowed not to be offensive?

However, it can be assumed that child abuse is less common in gay families because:

  1. Mostly they are lesbian couples
  2. The adaptation is carefully examined by authorities

3.Social control is also particularly strict

4.Gay men are no more paedophiles than the heteromen: 90% of the victims are girls. It must also be borne in mind that for many of these perpetrators do not care with whom they can live out their sadistic searchfor power. The last example is the child abusers from the campsite. Among the victims were children of both sexes and also an adopted girl.

Education on homosexuality

It may be that children from such families often do not become strictly heterosexual (what is bad about it?The main thing is that man is happy), but one can assume that they are less at the mercy of the compulsion to be necessarily heterosexual. But because homosexuality is obviously innate, education in the HS is not possible. This is also confirmed by practice.

Among other problems I am referring to above all the possible bullying of children from rainbow families.Unfortunately, however, many children are harassed in schools anyway. Schools are getting bigger and bigger, more and more classes are becoming full, there are more and more behavioural children and children with a migrant background, more and more stressed teachers and introduction of all-day schools are exacerbating the problem of bullying. For example, society must be less opposed to discussions about rainbow families and more focused on solving the educational problem.

Otherwise, according to numerous studies, rainbow family children are no worse off than the others, even better (e.g. according to the degree of tolerance and acceptance of the societies studied) because they:

  1. are not an accident result and are always very much desired by parents
  2. the adoptive parents are, as I said, more rigorously tested and controlled
  3. parents often have a quasi-high socio-economic status

4.the fulfillment of the desire to have children is usually associated with a lot of reflection, overcoming many obstacles and often with a lot of money (e.g. for the ).

Two short artculates on the subject, which show, among other things, how acceptance is important for the rainbow children and thus also for the whole of society:


Children of gay parents learn just as well 31.01.2019

Eine study from the USA shows that children with same-sex parents learn just as well as those with hetero-parents.Decreasing discrimination helps.

Anja K眉hne

Lesbian mothers – here with their car at the CSD Berlin.

Children who grow up in the U.S. with same-sex parents are now as good at school as children with mixed-sex parents.

This is the result of a study by Diederik Boertien (Center for Demographic Studies, Barcelona) and Fabrizio Bernardi (European University Institute, San Domenico), which has now been published in the scientific journal “Demography”.

As recently as 10 years ago, children with same-sex parents were slightly more likely to have to repeat a year at school than children with mixed-sex parents, the researchers report, 5.1 percent versus threepercent.However, this difference has not been apparent for years. It appears that the social pressure strained by discrimination on parents and their children, some of which led to poor school performance, had decreased. That is why the school performance of children with same-sex parents would have aligned withthose of children in mixed-sex homes.

Criterion for failure: non-transfer

The study is based on the largest sample on which the topic has been studied so far, Boertien and Bernardi write.They analyzed data from the American Community Survey (ACS) from 2008 to 2015 for a total of just over 1.9 million students between the ages of eight and sixteen.Of these, just under 8,000 – or 0.39 percent – lived in a single-parent household in a same-sex relationship. The researchers considered it a criterion for failure at school when students had not been transferred.

In2008, children growing up with same-sex parents were at higher risk of not being transferred to school.Even then, however, the difference was only visible in those students who grew up in regions with discriminatory legislation and a particularly widespread rejection of homosexuals among the population. Thus,in 2010, there is no longer a significant statistical difference between the educational performance of children with homosexual parents and those with heterosexual parents.

Discrimination against gay parents can have an impact

Discrimination can have animpact on the relationship of homosexual parents and their children in various ways and have been reflected in the statistics on school performance, the researchers explain.For example, many of the parents had previously lived in a heterosexual relationship, so their children were more likely to be burdened by separation than other children 鈥?which would affect schoolperformance.

Studies also show that same-sex couples are more likely to suffer from depression than opposite-sex couples because of the lack of social recognition, which can also hinder their children’s school success, such as Bernardi reports.Further research showed that children who were bullied at school because of their lesbian parents were more likely to have low self-esteemand exhibit conspicuous behaviour.

Children are growing up with same-sex parents from the start

However, as social acceptance and the availability ofreproductive technologies soared, children are growing up with same-sex parents from the very beginning without having grown up in a opposite-sex family. ande ine separation.Because marriages are statistically more stable than non-marital relationships, same-sex couples are also likely to benefit from the new right to marry – as well as social acceptance,the researchers explain. .Moreover, the better planning of the family has improved the socio-economic situation of same-sex parents 鈥?a factor that correlates with higher school performance of children.

In the 2008 cohort, particularly adopted children of same-sex couples performed poorly (about 58,600 were adopted in the sample, of which 1,182 were with same-sexcouples).The researchers attribute this to the fact that in the past, authorities and private adoption agents mainly provided children with special needs for same-sex couples.Only with the increasing acceptance of homosexuals would they have been allowed to adopt more children without special support requirements.A difference between the benefits of same-sex couples of adopted children compared to the adopted children of opposite-sex couples is no longer apparent, Boertien and Bernardi note. February 2019

Children from rainbow families are better students

The offspring of gay or lesbian couples perform better at school than children raised by heterosexual couples.

Children growing up in rainbow families have a better chance of graduating from school (symbol image: (cc) Tom Reynolds / flickr)

Researchers of the Catholic (!) University of flanders (Leuven) have found in a large-scale study (PDF) that children have more success at school when they grow upwith same-sex parents than with their father and mother.

For example, they would have a roughly seven percent higher chance of graduating from secondary school than children with “traditional” parents.Rainbow children also performed better than the comparison group in post-primary test results.

Economists Deni Mazrekaj, Kristof De Witte and Sofie Cabus used data from the Dutch statistics agency Centraal Bureau voor de Statistiek for their study, from which they analyzed data from all children born in the country between 1995 and 2005. . They were able to assign 1,200 children to same-sex couples, more than a million to different-sex couples.

Previous studies less meaningful

Until now, studies have mostly found that children from rainbow families tend to live just as well as children from other families.Unlike the new study by the Belgian scientists, these studies were able to draw on relatively few children 鈥?a seven-year-old study by the University of Amsterdam examined about 200 children (queer.dereported).

Only one study from Texas has so far found that children grow up worse with gays and lesbians.However, this 2012 study was carried out by sociologist Mark Regnerus, who is funded by Christian homo-haters and whose methodology, according to colleagues, had many serious shortcomings (queer.dereported).

Previous studies, according to the Belgian researchers, had also had the problem ofwhether children had grown up with rainbow families or simply lived briefly with a same-sexcouple.Many children from these studies had come into a rainbow family through the divorce of a homosexual parent from the heterosexualpartner, which distorted the results.The reason: Divorce schoolswould have more problems in schools than children with an intact parental home.

Netherlands has particularly good conditions for rainbow families

The authors of the new study point out that the conditions for a good childhood in rainbow families in the Netherlands are particularlyhigh.In hardly any other country is so tolerant of gays and lesbians that the “minority stress” often measured in countries such as the USA is not so widespread among sexual minorities.The concept of “minority stress” specifically states that such individuals are exposed to a higher level of stress 鈥?which more often leads to other problems such as attempts to reduce stress from abuse of intoxicants or other dangerous compensate for behaviours.

The better outcomes of children from rainbow families could also be explained by the fact that same-sex parents are often more affluent, older and more educated than heterosexual parents, the Belgian researchers said.”It’s difficult for same-sex couples to have children, so they have to have a high socioeconomicstatus,” Mazrekaj said at a meeting of the American Economic Affairs in January, according to the Washington Post. Association in the U.S. metropolis of Atlanta.This higher status is crucial for better performance in schools. When the researchers calculated these differences, the differences between homosexual and heterosexual parents were smaller, but children in rainbow families still showed slightly better results than children with heterosexual parents.

The study,the researchers admitted, had its limitations: Because of the low number of gay parents, they could not calculate whether it makes a difference whether children with two fathers or two mothers growup.They also were unable to provide details on how children are raised by a single gay or singlelesbian, or the influence of bisexual parents.

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