yes.And, unfortunately, there is a great deal of suffering associated with this “too little”. The majority of those described as “victims of narcissism” also seem to be affected.
People who have completely or very largely banished the healthy parts of narcissism from their lives.
had to do so, banished other essential abilities at the same time. For example, the ability to feel positively special and to represent it externally. Or to advertise for yourself. Or to achieve goals on their own and without the help of others. Or to take care of yourself first. Or the ability to protect their own ego in encounters with malignant narcissists. The latter should probably weigh the most in the overall assessment of the consequences of unhealthy narcissism.
Often referred to in Quora, names of personalities of this type with their typical lack of balancing self-loving abilities or behaviors are those of the “co-narcissist”,the “non-delimiting empathy”or “complementary narcissist“.People of this type are highly vulnerable to malignant relationships with narcissists who have complementary patterns of deficits and abilities because of their specific deficits, but also skills.
Since people with too little narcissism usually only harm themselves and their immediate surroundings, and do not draw attention to themselves loudly, they are still largely overlooked in psychodiagnostics as a potentially independent group cluster.But with their usually very typical stories of suffering here on Quora, you determine a large part of the discussions about and about narcissism.
The author and Harvard lecturer Dr.Craig Malkin (Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists) refers to these people, alluding to the nymph Echo, who self-indulges in the young narcissist of the Greek Mythology fell in love, also as “echoists“.From my point of view, this appears to be the most beautiful as well as the most appropriate name.
Just as an echoist can still learn to become more self-loving and selfish, even a narcissist can learn to be more loving and WE-related, according to my observations.This is not to be done in one step, but rather to build up together with these integrating experiences, as with a first-grader in many iterating sub-steps.
At the moment, two questions about this concept are being asked critically for me:
- Are echoism and narcissism really implied expressions of a real dichotomy … or are they two independent concepts which must therefore be grasped and measured independently of each other?
- What are the similarities between echoism and narcissism?
Is it not to be assumed, for example, that the two manifestations together are the basis of the so-called “false” because inauthentic self? Does the balanced middle between the two poles, not the “healthy” normal-typical state, therefore, also represent?