This question is based on the erroneous assumptions that (a) Everyone finds the same things easier and (b) the total of the tax on the participation in a household for an extended period of time can be “unfair” divided.
Imagine a household where one of the partners likes to clean up the house, Cook and possibly take care of the daily worries of children, and the second has a good job and can bring enough money for the household , but really very awkward with a vacuum cleaner and has no experience with cooking.
If we were to turn the two roles into that household, both partners would become more unfortunate and their lives become heavier.This example shows that (a) is an incorrect assumption.
However, the success of the distribution floats on the fact that both participants think they have the better role.If in a household one of the two partners (or both!) feels that it has a much heavier task than the other, then it is sensible if they speak to each other or it can be more evenly distributed. Perhaps the working partner should be able to remove the dishwasher in the evening, or a part of the tasks may be transferred the other way. I think, in contrast to the assumption (b), the household can only be stable if the two participants both feel that they are making an equivalent contribution and are not taxed much heavier than the other.
Depends how hard you need the money.If your partner can earn enough, it is of course easier to have all the time of the world for your children. Especially if you like to make all your time free for them. The opposite is that your own life is also very small.
I wouldn’t be able to, I’m trying to be there for my daughter when and how I can.I can, however, because I deserve enough and because I have the challenges of work. Without it, I (and therefore my daughter) would be very unhappy.
Everyone will have to make that balance for themselves, that nobody can do for you.
In the country where we lived, after your maternity leave as a parent, you had the opportunity to stay home for one year to take care of your young child.This while retaining your job and 80% of your salary. I have gratefully used this. Then I worked full time and went the little to the cr猫che. Parttime work was very unusual and impossible for my employer. After the birth, the pregnant and parental leave of our second child I stopped working. I had a luxury life: Man deserved the money, maid did the household, children couple of hours a day to the cr猫che.. My well-paid, nice job I missed a moment.
Now years further, back in the Netherlands, not working, divorced, mother of kids now 18 and 16. The children go their own way.You go inefficient with the time when there is no pressure on the boiler. You become lazy and blunts what I think. My world has become quite small. Most women in NL who I know have (part time) work (and a spouse) and therefore no time. Anyway, it is not easy to build a social network as a strange duck in the bite. Working in my case would be easier, if only to come among the people and make some structure in MN life. But with your 51 years old and 17 years not to have worked….. Few employers are waiting for you. And am I sitting on a boss waiting after so many years and the financial luxury not to “need” work? I am not out yet, but if the children are out of the house, I will have to give up my life again, because then the home stay is suddenly a lot less attractive, so in MN one…. Am not out yet.
There is no general response to this, it depends very much on how the persons concerned experience it, the domestic situation, whether or not children, how the working hours of both partners are, whether one can work part-time, etc.
From home we grew up with the idea that women have the same right to study, and afterwards find an appropriate job, however, the late my eldest sister, a former physician, has hung her stethoscope on the Willows after her children came, she Had five.My lone youngest sister is up to her 65th as a doctor continuing to work.
In our family, logistics was very difficult for my wife to find suitable work after graduation, at that time there was a surplus of pharmacists so the payment was downright bad, one had to do night and weekend services (sleeping in the pharmacy away from home) for , not at all loved by ladies, what with my profession of hospital specialist with working hours up to 22 hours and weekly night services, and a weekend service per month, not to rhyme well fell.Investing myself in a pharmacy was not there, I already had a debt to buy me in my practice.
When the children came it was clear to my wife: she wanted to take care of our children herself, she gave her study (which would not give her financially much) for this, this became all the more important when it turned out that our oldest had very serious asthma, so Placement in a child care would not have been possible.Thus, it has become our family manager, at home permanently, for us this was the best solution.
I have, of course, worked with female colleagues, mothers with small children, who were pretty hard to arrange adequate childcare for the children, especially if the babysitter reported ill.Opas and grandma’s often don’t live around the corner…. Yet this was for them, partly thanks to the fact that they could work part-time (the full-time working male colleagues ensured the continuity), the most satisfactory solution, stopping work was a big loss of something of their own, and a huge Disinvestment of 6 years medical study plus 5 + years specialisation to medical specialist. Their partners all had a job with reasonably normal working hours, also important.
A working parent.If you live just to care for children running, that can be very tricky I know from experience.
I think this depends very much on whether you can make the choice to stay at home or start working yourself.I would be absolutely easier a working parent than a home lasting.
Yes.Depends entirely on the circumstances in which you live. I always have the idea that when my wife can earn more than me, I have no problems whatsoever with being a literal family father.
I know what you can do with a vacuum cleaner, washing machine, tumble dryer, cooker, pots and pans.I know where the grocery, the baker, the butcher etc. To be found. I even know what a duster does!
Think this has a lot to do with what you want in life.Where you get your luck out.
Do you have ambitions?How important do you think it is to be independent? How much value do you attach to your own income? How important is it for you to spend time with your children and see them grow up some of the time?
And in addition what kind of relationship do you have with your partner?And what are your partner’s wishes? What ambitions does he or she have? How can you both experience the most satisfaction, earn enough money for maintenance and give the children the best care they deserve.
In addition, working as a home parent also requires a decent dose of discipline and time management skills.
As a single parent, I am both.
And it has both pros and cons.
My preference is to end to working mother, because I only have attention and time to myself.Something I’m staying on at home barely days.
Staying at home mother means I really have time for daughter to connect with full attention and strengthen our band together.Something we hardly come to on working days.