I left in 2016 but that will not give much care.
It is natural for everyone else to outline my (then) living conditions:
I’m not really “passable”, i.e. pretty much everyone sees that I’m TG.It is rare, but sometimes, for people to say “he” when they refer to me. People who know me as well as people who do not know me.
I had been living as a woman for 20 years and got 100% clear about that.So I have never been indetifized as TG or as a genderbender, although I love a couple of girlfriends from the patient Support Group of the transition.
I’m fairly introves.I had a rather social job with a lot of customer contact, but in the business services. So little contakt with people who were drunk and so.
I would say: it is not a problem.I do not experience it as something that has some restrictions.
It could be that if I had extroved and had been less autistic, I could have encountered limitations.Maybe there are people who don’t really treat me like a woman (was that was also allowed to mean), or clumsy communicating with me or so. It just doesn’t matter to me. Incidentally, if I have an occasional problem with my relationship with a particular family member, colleague, customer or someone at the bridge club, then I don’t drive it so quickly to min Tgity unless that is explicit as a problem mentioned. Which never occurs.
It has been quite different.When I came to the Netherlands in 1996, my Tgity was the tema of my life and of my social relationships, whether it was about dating or solicitation or searching for a living space, or just buying an apple from the groentenboer.
In the past 20 years, however, a few things have changed radically:
- I was very much experimenting with makeup, clothing, voice and style of walking, sitting etc.
I’m fairly long (188 cm) and totally zero talent for clothing. So I was very disappointed and it was quite a problem. I don’t really know why I wasn’t wearing some “normaler” clothing. Nahja, I know: if I were to wear jeans, a lot of people would just speak to me as “Sir”, assuming I was just a nichterige gay or something. Of course, the transsition does not come along. I wear jeans. Fashionable feminine clothing, rarely makeup. As other women in the academic sector.
A friend then said “It’s nice that you now live with me because then I get a lot of visit because everyone wants to see the new beast in my Zoo”. Also in the lesbian starting life I was exotic and made a lot of contacts. There is nothing special about being openly TG. That saves a lot of hassle. I’ve just become a burger trut. If the police appeals to me, it is purely because I have no light on my bike. If someone at a disco asks me to dance it comes purely because she likes me. If I am or are not hired in a residential group on a solicitation interview, it is purely due to normal considerations. It all has nothing to do with my Tgity. As a transgender life in the Netherlands as long as you go on as you pass if your sex is not such a bother.I think what you are referring to is more the people who are in transition, who do not yet continue 100% as the desired gender.
The Netherlands is surprisingly close-minded in that respect.People often find it but a recruitment; Especially all genders that do not fall within the binary genders male or female.
Of course there are always annoying people in every country.In The Netherlands people are quite direct and do not keep much for themselves. For example, when I had not yet started a hormone treatment, I heard a discussion of men who discussed whether I was a boy or a girl. Just talked about me where I was at? Heavily disrespectful I found that.
Since I am still a student it was also a thingy to tell it there.I decided to do that in a new year because students then switch from minor (and not many students I could have sat in my next minor). Because I follow a fairly creative training, I’ve actually had no trouble with people who found it weird. I didn’t tell them literally, except my teacher. I just went to dress and go to school. If they found it weird, they had enough respect to keep it for themselves. I have not had any real support, but no real discriminatory events have occurred.
What I find especially annoying about people is when they think there is more to know than you, while you are struggling with it all your life and they barely understand the term transgender.When I tell people I’m a trans girl and they react with: “So you’re actually a man?”, annoys me tremendously. Ignorance in the Netherlands is quite large, because virtually no one shows interest in the subject unless they have something to do with it directly. If you look at the list “I am not” you will find words that transgender women can hear daily.
I have encountered that transgender women are mainly seen as two things.
The first is a monster, disgusting and nasty, a man with a wig that you shouldn’t have anything about. For example, transgender women are often also dropped into old comedy films or series for a cheap joke.
The second is a sexbeast, a woman with the horeness of a man, who has become ‘ trans ‘ in order to be able to get more men to have sex with.This is how trans women are put into whole other films, namely pornography.
These two different types of images about trans women have been screaming different sides of the media.This also ensures that trans women are treated with little respect and are often not seen as humane. They are either a man, or a sort of third category. In the 1 way or another, trans women are not seen as a woman by many people, while it is already in the name Trans Woman (?)
Of course, there are enough trans women who have already undergone this during their transition, but at this moment no more pay attention to that they have ever been trans.Logically, they don’t tell anyone I think too. Open trans women have every time they tell they are trans suffer from previously appointed ignorance and respectedness.
Many women who have undergone their transition hardly notice anything in their daily lives.It is mainly about the people who are still in transition who can still get some weird looks.
For myself, it’s mostly on chats where I’m open to being a very annoying thing. I am therefore mainly seen as a ‘ fake woman ‘, but especially as a lust object, or even combined.
In real life, virtually nobody has got trans and I can live just as I want to live without being watched or laughed at.This is the result of 6 months of hormone treatment and most young adults have a transitional phase of about 3 years (that would mean I’m more feminine for 2 and a half years, although I still wouldn’t know how that’s possible). However, I can say that I have had very good luck with my genes and that not every transgender woman who went into transition after puberty experienced the same and achieved the same results.