With ultimate certainty?Not atall.
In any case, not in the case of an acute crisis situation.Here it can always be that you don’t reach someone fast enough, who simply doesn’t have time because their life is more important to them right now, or you are spatially too separated that someone could really help you.
But what about ongoing crises or generally difficult phases of life?In such a situation, can we certainly rely on certain people?
No, not here either.Not for sure.
What you can do, however, is to consider how likely it is that someone is there for you when you need it.
Check your relationship.Ask yourself questions like:
-Have we known each other for a long time?
-Does the person notice when I am not doing well?
-> Does she try to be there for me or to encourage me in such cases?
-Has the person ever betrayed me?
-Am I related to the person?
-Have I ever been there for the person when she was really bad?
-Is this person rather reliable and loyal or rather erratic and solitary?
Depending on how you answer each question, you can make a spiritual note.Either in the direction of “morelikely” or “lesslikelythat I can rely on this person”.
The more such questions you can answer, the more accurately you can tell the outcome of a situation.
It would be nice to be able to say: “You can always rely 100% on your best friends or on your parents!” Unfortunately, that is not true.Every person leads a life as complex as you do. If they cannot or do not want to help you at any given time, they will have reasons for doing so.
Ultimately, you’d have to go into a crisis to see who you can really rely on.
And such a situation offers great learning potential.Two scenarios:
- You call a good friend, ask for help, and he comes by:
In this situation, you could rely on him.
You have learned that in the future you are more likely to rely on him again and expect a similar result.
People have reasons for acting for it that are more important to them than you at the moment. You have learned that you can’t rely on anyone for the most certain, even if you would have expected it.
From this one can conclude that one should never attach too much importance to one’s own life (no matter which) interpersonal relationships.
Because the more you have tiedto a person, and then been severely disappointed by him, the more painful it is to feel like yourself.from the bond to this person.
Therefore, the question of probability, in my opinion, is the most sensible and the most effective way to assess the behaviour of a particular person and to be prepared accordingly for expected reactions.