In collaboration, by giving you fully to the task of Hande.It’s not about the other, it’s about executing the assignment. Do not let yourself be put off of it. Bring and bend all attempts to dispense back to work. Out there, avoid contact and find it with people you lie.
It is not to be avoided that there are colleagues that we do notlike, in whose company we do not love to dwell, or even upset or enrage us.
These are never pleasant experiences, but still we can learn how to cope better with them.
This kind of people often causes a lot of unnecessary stress and anxiety in our lives. Their negative thoughts and feelings can ignite us so that our own mental state is also affected by it.
But that doesn’t have to be. With the right mindset, we can minimize the negative impact these people have on us.
Here are some important ideas that I myself keep in mind when I am dealing with a ‘ difficult person ‘.Keeping this in mind can help you to be quieter and to stay understanding.
1.Everyone has his own fight to deliver
Whatever you see on the outside, eventually everyone is busy with his own battles, and everyone experiences problems in his or her life.
You might get the impression that someone is much better than you, while you can’t know what that person is all about at the moment.We often compare the successes of other people with our everyday lives.
But a lot of people hide their real feelings and thoughts.They only show their ‘ happy ‘ or ‘ self-confident ‘ side, while they feel miserable and insecure inside.
Never Underestimate The pain that someone can feel inside. When someone behaves like a scum against you, it could be that they are very hurt from within.
2.Don’t take it personally, they just have a bad day
When you are dealing with difficult people, it is tempting to get carried away in their negative energy and also to get out of the corner themselves negatively.
Maybe they say something in common or insulting, so you are inclined to say something back.Often it seems that difficult people are attacking us -and sometimes they also intend to chase us -so we want to defend ourselves.
But that makes the problem worse.By going into it, we only feed the conflict and hostility.
Therefore, it is important to take away from what the other person says, and to take nothing personally. Try to understand that usually, when people say something in common, they do that because they are already poorly disposed or have a bad day.Even though they say very hurtful things, usually they don’t really mean that.
3.If I were to be in their shoes, I would react as well
In difficult people, we often underestimate how similar we would react if the situation were different. Often we underestimate the power of environmental factors, while we just overestimate personality factors when someone makes a mistake or does something wrong.
We often think that we would never do such a thing, while the truth is that we really do not know how we would react in that situation.
Research also proves that people are really bad at predicting how they would react in a situation they never experienced before, especially when it comes to an emotional situation.
The next time someone acts in a way you don’t understand, try to put yourself in his shoes.What could cause you to react in such a way? Perhaps you are less different from that person as you thought.
4.How can I help this person, instead of fighting back?
Don’t think how you can fight back and defend yourself, but think: how can I help this person?
People in a very negative and difficult state, often act from a call for help.Actually, they just want someone who listens to them and can help to make their lives a little easier.
So they’re really not looking for enemies: they’re looking for friends, even though it doesn’t seem like that.
Even a small gesture on your part can help people and make them more enjoyable and more grateful.Just ask ‘ How is it? ‘ or ‘ Can I help you with something? ‘ So let you know that they want to be there for them.
5.Sometimes it’s better to just leave people alone
Sometimes the best thing you can do just to leave difficult people alone.You can’t help someone if they don’t want to be helped.
When people are in a very negative state, it is sometimes impossible to talk with them reasonably.Instead, you give them some space, to come back later when they are calmed down and willing to listen.
Do not hesitate to leave when you cannot take any other positive actions.
Everyone wants to be happy, some are only poorly informed
I believe that everyone is deep within a good person. That helps me to engage in positive relationships with others.Believing that everyone has positive intentions and only pursues his own happiness, helps to treat others respectfully and kindly. Even when the other has done something bad I can’t understand.
Instead of thinking that another is bad, or common, or wrong, try to assume that that other is just ‘ poorly informed ‘ or ‘ deceived ‘. With the right knowledge and experience, the other might behave differently.Only he can’t do that now, and he just tries to find a way out.
So it is not always necessary to avoid difficult people or to get out of the way, you can also just have more patience to try to bring out the good in them more often.
7.We cannot always agree with everyone
In Our world, 7.53 billion people live with different life visions, values, interests and goals.So it is understandable that we will not always be able to handle everyone.
Of course we do our best to avoid conflict, but it is unrealistic to think that there will never be conflicts.
In every relationship, be it among friends, family, colleagues or partners, there are ups and downs.There will be differences of opinion, discussions and quarrels. That happens. It is part of life.
So don’t feel guilty when a situation doesn’t quite run as you would like.Sometimes you will disagree with someone, or even snub or say something cruel.
We all make an error, so let it loose and be your best yourself in the future.