Why, is there something wrong with ‘ feelings & emotions ‘ then?By far the most decisions are taken with the feeling. The influence of the mind is, by choices, greatly overestimated by many people-and often, after the choice, laid over as a rational declaration attempt.
When you buy a car, the mind gives you the frames.You know your budget, how many children should be in it, diesel, gasoline or electric, whether a caravan needs to be pulled, etc. But there could be a lot of cars left after this wisdom selection that you can now choose from. The question now is how this choice process continues. Great chance you choose the car you like, which you find most beautiful, that feels most comfortable for you, hears, sees. An emotional choice.
Analogue reasoning when buying a house.If there is enough choice after the wisdom selection, you will go for the house that feels best, where you can feel best at home.
And, as a uitsmijter: The most important choice you can make in your life should not be taken with the mind.That should be an emotional choice. If you explain this choice to your family or friends as a very thoughtful choice, as the pinnacle of your rational abilities ends up being sad man alone. I am of course talking about the choice for a (love) partner.
I totally join the answer of R. Ziel.However, I would like to mention something else: on the basis of the unconscious. That is much more powerful than the conscious. Therefore: one night sleeping on it for important decisions is always a good idea.
Every day you take decisions constantly.
Especially the big decisions have a huge influence on the continuation of your life.
It is therefore worthwhile to apply these 7 strategies.
They are all tips based on scientific research.
1.Distrplay yourself for 2 minutes
In a Carnegie Mellon study , decision-makers did just that.Before they made a choice about buying a car, for example, they led themselves through a short memory exercise where they had to memorize numbers in order.
Every 2-minute distraction works: To cancel a poem, listen to music, even play angry Birds.
Brain scans reveal that -while your conscious mind focuses on the distraction –your unconscious mind continues to weigh options.That little break refreshes your perspective and makes sure you’re not going over-thinking, because that leads to bad decisions.
2.Drinking water and… Do you like
Drink 5 glasses of water before you take a big decision, and keep it on for 45 minutes.If you can postpone your toilet visit, you can take better, less impulsive decisions than when your bladder is empty. This is evident from a study with volunteers at the University of Twente.
The statement? The effort triggers increased control over other domains, including controlling impulses, and that leads to less hastily taken decisions.(Strangely enough, even the between leads to words like urine, toilet and bladder to the same impulse-inhibiting effect).
3.Limit yourself to 7 shades of Grey
Limit your options (for choosing a holiday destination, toothpaste, an apartment, whatever) up to Seven , Maximum.That’s the average number of units that can master our working memory. Add even more than you feel paralyzed.
As those participants in the study who were asked to choose between six types of jam versus 24 species (30% versus 3% bought a jar).
The same is evident from studies about investment funds (the more options, the less inlage) and even speed dates (too much turns out to be a knapper).
When we have an abundance of choices , the choices made are also riskier (found in a study about gamblers at the University of Warwick), because our skill to gather info weakens and we have less good estimates Can make.
Caring for Oxygen
Open the window.Go for a walk. Even a very small increase in CO2 (which we continually exhale) in the space where you sit, hampers decision making (cf. A study in Environmental Health Perspectives).
Volunteers took moderately worse decisions when the CO2 level was at 1000 ppm (= an average busy local) and dramatically poorer
Decisions starting from 2500 ppm (a more crowded local where you can smell the other).
This while the level is outside at about 350 ppm.
The more people in a room, the more CO2… Think about what effect it has on deciding in a meeting room.Incidentally, you can purchase a solid CO2 meter for approximately 193 euros.
5.Do what you would do when buying a new TV
Base your decision (at least in part) on the opinions (and the wisdom) of third parties who know more about it.Just like you would if you were Googles to a sushi restaurant. This is what Chip and Dan Heath tell in their Book ‘decides‘.
Suppose you have to decide whether or not you accept a job offer, see people who have already fulfilled that job.Or suppose you’re going to move to a totally different place, then check what the locals say about that place.
Usually we don’t take it into account, but a ‘second opinion‘ is often more accurate than our own gut feeling.
6.Apply “one-stop shopping”
In An example, her research team asked people to choose their favorite praline from five different.Whoever saw all the options at the same time felt more gratifying with his choice than who saw and could taste one by one -they didn’t know what was coming and always hoped that something better was coming.
This lesson is also applicable to shoes, a bottle of wine, online dating profiles, you name it. Make a decision with your options for you. One-Stop shopping ‘ say.
7.Look in the future
Think of each option and its effects over 10 minutes, 10 months and 10 years.
Do you stay in that relationship or stop it?Are you going for another child? Do you eat a pizza tonight?
Compare the implications with your own values, dreams and goals, writes Welch.And then ask yourself the burning question: “which decision will help me best in creating my own life?“
Bonustip: Spend money
If you want a decision to be something you need to keep yourself -for example, a decision to move more, eat healthier or develop yourself, spend money on it.This is what the Harvard philosopher Robert Nozick recommends in his book the Nature of Rationality.
For example, buy a full yoga set and take a lesson plan when you decide to do yoga.Pay in advance for your bio-vegetable subscription or buy your tickets for the upcoming culture season
Your dislike of losing money helps you to continue your good intentions.
I find a quiet place, then I relax myself as well as possible.And then think about the decision.