How and when did you realize that you are suffering from a mental illness?

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Katrin Sheppard’s answer to How and when did you realize that you are suffering from a mental illness?divided into healing as a way
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(written by Katrin Sheppard)
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Please take a look at the following pictures after reading the text by Katrin Sheppard!
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The first figure shows the course of illness and recovery of alcohol addiction.

The second figure shows the course of illness and recovery of the relationship addiction.

Source of the illustrations:
Norwood, Robin; “When women love too much”; Rowohlt Verlag GmbH 2001

(Relationship, romance, sex and love addiction swells from the same source; emotional dependence.

Emotional dependence is the motor of those affected who are in unhealthy/toxic relationships in the medium and long term/do not dwell/do not manage to leave.)

The course of both addictions is almost identical, has the same symptoms and the health and psychological condition of the affected persons is the same “end product”.
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Alcohol addiction is to be attributed to substance dependency and can therefore be quickly identified as such.(Whether it is recognised by the person concerned or not. At least the environment of the affected persons will soon be clear that the person concerned is in an alcohol-related condition.)
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Relationship addiction arises from an emotional dependence and is therefore difficult for those affected and their environment to recognize.It takes a trained eye to recognize them at all. In most cases, the relationship addiction / co-dependence is only recognized when the affected persons (must) go into treatment due to the accompanying symptoms. In addition, in contrast to substance dependence, it is classified as “sometimes also to be mastered by the way”. Often an outbreak (self-incantation or performed by the relationship partner) succeeds from an existing addiction link, the sufferers recover, but then it is only a matter of time when they rejoin a destructive addictive cycle. other relationship, because the actual disease has not been detected and treated.
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Relationship addicts /co-addicts are ridiculed by many untrained eyes during their illness, as irresponsible, immature or emotionally unstable.According to the motto “You and your relationship problems.” These untrained eyes do not bear any kind of intention with such additions. They are just as ignorant as the unenlightened ones themselves and think that they would be ordinary relationship problems. That is not the case.
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Affected people who are in emotional dependence stumble out of hard work there, laboriously digging through counselors and YouTube channels, which are almost the only source of help.They are going through a withdrawal, backing up and having to do their own long work in order to remain “clean”.
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The treatment and debate regarding alcohol addiction is given in many ways in the German health system as well as in the minds of the general public.Everyone knows that there are substance-related issues, prevention work and holistic consulting and development concepts form a stifling mode and yet not every person affected by a substance allergy can break the cycle of his addiction. It’s damn hard and a lifelong task.
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Please meet those affected by the relationship addiction with the same experience and support as they would encounter someone who is in a substance dependence and register that it is unmistakably a matter of a adults.What they do not see, however, is the experienced world of the affected persons, which has a childlike level in terms of the destructive relationship.
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Please imagine it this way:
If you give a child its main reference
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it should leave it voluntarily or is suddenly abandoned by it,
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then it will not and cannot accept this happening so easily.
It will be necessary to make or stop the loss.There will be thousands of questions, it will cry, mourn and negotiate, because a child is emotionally inseparable from his main reference person. The main reference person is necessary for survival within the childlike emotional world. Regardless of whether it is treated well or badly. Even in the case of poor treatment, a
Child defend and love his main reference person until with an adult maturity it can and will look at things differently later.
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A relationship addict possesses in the context of the destructive relationship from which he does not detach himself or with whose loss he can hardly deal with the emotional world of a child.He does not experience this with the emotional maturity of an adult and is additionally in an addiction that is equivalent to an alcohol addiction.
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Affected persons and non-affected persons should sensitize their gaze and strive to understand the deeper, invisible connections and – above all – the seriousness of the situation.This is achieved through enlightenment. This educational work is virtually non-represented in Germany and is, for example, in many other countries in the style of anonymous alcoholics as S.L.L.A. groups very purposeful and widespread practice. Therefore, seek as much help as possible and spread what you need. helped! They are dealing with a serious mental illness.

I realized this for myself completely when I found myself in the second picture.

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