Broadly, I agree with Cornelis Zandbergen.A lot of energy sticking in good intentions is a waste of time.
For me (weak will, bad memory) work good intentions but limited.And there is no reason to wait until one January if I think I should actually tackle a particular subject. External control helps me though. If I have a friendly, knowledgeable, dentist who explains to me what is the most efficient and effective way of dental care, then I find myself a duffer if he or she has to say next time that I have not followed the advice. You want a dentist to continue to handle a bit motivated with your teeth.
So through the year I sometimes take a little better to go.Unfortunately often the same…
Well, that’s also logical.If something succeeds, I don’t have to take the same again. But more patience and more self-discipline, that can always be a little better for me.
Thanks Céline, that you have thought of a reply to me (I know that you have a professional interest in that, but I think you are doing it charming as a Dutch Quora-Duvelstoejager).
This year, last year and the year before I started with a good intention, I know.But to tormented my brain every year about what I would like to change now, such a person I am not. Intentions are adhoc decisions, which are with me a mix between “pfff.. Intentions what is it for something “and” without a stick behind the door you come nowhere “. I am rather cautious, slow and stubborn in nature. Changes, I don’t really like that. But, I am aware of this fear and force myself to tackle things differently and go stug in the direction I have embarked on.
Two years of money I decided to drink a glass of alcohol on the weekend.Every day I drank beer or wine when eating, and then one more when reading a book. This becomes a habituation and the desire for drink, a whirl I find not pleasant, and it is also quite unhealthy. Do not drink through the week and also let yourself enjoy a nice glass of beer on the weekend, which was for me a fairly easy intention to keep full. I still do it and also notice that one glass is sufficient. Alcohol is also a habituation, the less you drink, the stronger the effects (I get very tired of it). The taste remains equally delicious.
Last year I decided to drink less coffee.It’s yummy, but to drink locks of coffee every day, I get too nervous about that. This intention was not easy. The hardest thing was to not start coffee in the morning. The first weeks it was very duf waking up, headache. It is a matter of routine and habituation to make every morning tea in the place of coffee. I do care to buy nice tea, no bumps, but good quality Chinese tea. After every week of drinking tea, this has become an automatism. At my work I also started drinking less coffee. Only in the afternoon I make my walk to get a mug of coffee in the Senseo machine. You need such a coffee padjes that I have to buy for 30 cents from our secretariat. I always take one with you. For example, for every coffee I have some movement with a few stairs on and off.
This year I have tackled it more easily.I have intended to give some workshops professionally during the course of the year. It requires a lot of preparation and it is not part of my normal work. In addition, I always keep looking at a bit to speak in a group. I stutter some in my daily life. On the one hand, I do not make such a point, and on the other hand this tension remains. To book me already in January for the workshops I have already helped myself over the threshold, from now on it is just stubbornly persevered. Always there is such a devil in my brain that says “I don’t have such a sense in Dr” and another devil that says “Watje, that’s just going to do it!”. This is how I intend to work.
Gee, I’ve been trying to get in there and join the rest, but to be honest it can’t hear from me (hats off to those people who can, but I’m rather unpredictable in this area).
In the meantime I understand that I am someone who is very spontaneous in terms of intentions.
Inserting a new habit or making changes happens to me in a very emotional manner.
So it is not so that I set up a plan and I love it very strictly.
I really do need freedom in this area.
What works best is when I fully exploit my high “peak moments”.
Emotionally speaking, I am someone whose energy level peels from low to high and this at different times of the day (a flexible attitude towards my daily schedule and the way I work is also important).
It also differs from month to month.
So I learned to take advantage of my more active moments to try something new or start.
I’m going really slow, but once I’m busy and in the “flow”, I can still do it for a while (it’s also what I’m doing).
If the activity really excites me then I can spend hours doing it and get as much as possible within a certain period.
In this area I am a bit like a professor who suddenly has a prompting and must do something with it to answer my curiosity and enthusiasm.
I must have the freedom to improvise and adapt my approach when it suits me.
If I am too strict, then it fails to do so.
I have to say that it is now easier for me to get something done and also to finish off instead of crocheting.
That is something that I have learned with aging, I have worked on it, because I thought it was a joke to get a few things completely finished.