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I have been living in America for 6 years, and I have learned here that the way in which we deal with emotions and feelings in the Netherlands, the way in which talking about problems is so common, is not just to be transplanning. I have been together with my wife for seven years and her progress in this is… Not as far as I had imagined in advance.
If thinking about this kind of thing has not been part of your life or at least your surroundings from childhood, then this is incredibly difficult to learn.What I see to my wife is that, for example, she still finds it very difficult, after all these years, to have a conversation about emotions. She also thinks it’s terrible when I cry, for example, she really can’t resist. Not out of the mind though, but she just really has no idea what she should do with it. Sticking and saying Aggossietoch is just not enough, in its idea. Something needs to be solved, and now, so keep on crying so we can solve it.
As you can understand, the teaching of empathy is still in its infancy.It is therefore an absolute requirement that someone grew up in an environment that is at least friendly to feelings, emotions, and the inner world of perception.
If that is lacking, it will be very difficult if not impossible to teach someone empathy.Not because it cannot be in the base, but because empathy can only be built on an intimate knowledge of feelings, emotions, and your own inner perception world, or a basis that makes it easy to discover. My wife could learn it, because it is very sensitive in nature, but should first be quite in therapy to throw and rebuild all sorts of (sacred) houses.
But if that basis is there, then someone can absolutely learn to be empathic.It is nothing supernatural, it is an art, as a good orator is an art.
- You have to leave your own personal conviction out.
Your values, your standards, your ideas, that are all about you. They cannot, by definition, also apply to another. You have to be open to that. You must be able to accept that your standards are not THE standards, that your standards can be true for YOU, but not for others, and that does not make others bad. We think, we-and-they think, are barriers to keeping you in the way of the other.
Not to “what a knapperd” but to the mimics, to the expressions, to the movements, to how the other moves when IE talks. No judgements, just watching, just noting. The moment you judge you are back at 1: impose your standards and values on the other. So wen yourself to not judge. That’s not quite the same as no draw conclusions, however, that dividing line is thin and can bring you dangerously back at 1. If you do this often enough, your things will stand out naturally. Then you are going to see patterns, then you will see how someone looks away in certain subjects, or certain words, you see the minute twitching in someone’s face, the tension in their shoulders.
Again: Do not judge, not your own opinion first; The other is the protagonist. That’s the most exciting story ever. And if you do that often enough, you’ll also get things noticed again. The things that are not spoken, or the things that are just not said, or that someone touches the subject but just not, or that you suddenly understand what the other person would like to say.
I think these are the steps you need.
There are two types of empathy: cognitive empathy and affective (emotional) empathy.The first is to understand what the other is feeling and the second is to feel what the other feels.
Cognitive empathy is sure to always learn (at normal or high intelligence).Understand what the other feels, at what times, why, making etc. Through observation, attention during social interactions, by reading about it etc. People with autism, for example, have a significant lack of this form of empathy, but feel emotional empathy as soon as they understand what something does to someone.People with autism can also improve their cognitive empathy. An improvement in cognitive empathy can thus lead to an increase in emotional empathy.
A heavy lack of emotional empathy hardly occurs in mentally healthy people.People who lack this can, as with the Narcissistic personality disorder, learn to develop this somewhat if they are motivated, but it will never come to the point that a profound compassion arises. For example, primary psychopaths have a complete lack of emotional empathy, but often (in normal or high intelligence) have an excellent cognitive empathy, which allows them to faken empathy as well. They don’t feel it, but they understand how it works (cognitive empathy).
Empathic insight is to learn.It will always cost a lot more energy for people where this is not natural than with someone who is a very empathic person. An empathic person lives quickly with others, feels how others feel and is interested in others without interest. A person who is not born with these motivations will also not quickly make enough ‘ practice hours ‘. The empathic insight of these batters will therefore rarely come to the same level as that of a real empaat.
Someone who is not empathic of himself, but who does see the value and wants something more empathically can learn this by regularly reminding themselves to look at things from the eye of another.This ‘ moving in another ‘ goes naturally to empathic people.
In addition to ‘ teaching ‘, people can also get more empathic insight by experiencing a violent or emotional event.These events can sometimes make someone better able to live up to the feelings of others.
Actually though, just es learn to listen deeply breathe and listen then feel it.
Empathic insight is to learn.In principle, the person learns from his/her binding figure with which he/she has a safe adhesion. A safe environment is also important. Abuse and neglect will thus affect your empathic understanding.
In our childhood we are more manageable and we are open to incorporate new information and knowledge into us and to form a personality.It also means that if we mature its developmental characteristics such as empathy and for example pessimistic are less easy to transform because it becomes a hallmark of the personality and described as “so am I once”. Also from the childhood onwards we take a baggage which then forms our perception and opinion about ourselves, the other and the world.
Making someone aware of experiences and feelings, twisted thinking patterns or schematics, together on an exploratory path to understanding are some ways to learn it.It is a long process (also depends on the person) because one is part of a personality issue and many years have gone over it.
In her book ‘ Why Love is so important!How lewed for your baby forms his brain ‘ describes British psy SUE GERHARDT what they know about empathy and socialization about today and it’s ALWAYS taught!!!! The question is earlier they can still teach it if they have not learned it primarily from their MOTHER!!!! The social skills bloom on a shapely prefrontal cortex proves; Romanian orphaned children who have not had a primary responsive affective environment simply have NO PREFRONTAL CORTEX!!!!! IMHO, most psy disorders are linked to disrupted unsafe non responsive primary MOTHERBINDING, orphaned elephant also doesn’t know how to take care of his baby because something like that is passed with bounding and chest!!!!!
Yes, Emphatie is about RELATIONSHIP, with Jesus, God you can enter into a relationship by giving you in trust and Jesus