It is possible that this can lead to failure, but then it is not because you are demanding too much of yourself, but purely for the fact that you have no purpose where you are working towards.I can tell you from experience that I got myself crammed with work and I completely lost the thread. Once you lose the wire, it’s hard to understand where you want to go and what you’re doing.
This can lead to a failure.Purely because you no longer had all your goals in order. How you can avoid this is to reflect on a monthly or weekly basis to see where you stand, what you have done and whether you are still in the right direction.
Having a goal is 1 thing, but the proper planning and the right self-reflection ensure that you are always well on your way to your goal.
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Yes.The jammer is that you do not know in advance what is too much. You know only after you have accepted the eventual failure, or must accept it.
But yeah, even if that happened and you turn the failure for good, is it still a failure or just another step towards succeeding?
Too much of yourself demands comes out in the failure of attempts, you have learned something new again.You see and you adapt and you go through, without demanding too much of yourself.
Obviously there is nothing wrong with things to do well.
As long as it is your free choice.
But what if 芒 鈧?虄wantto be 芒 鈧劉 脗鈧?虄鈩?/i>?And you can not be more different? If you really demand too much of yourself?
Perfectionism is the 芒 鈧?虄te-Modus芒 鈧劉: Wanting to do too well, too much work, to be difficult to choose, to structure too strongly.
Perfectionism is the harmful 芒 鈧?虄to芒 鈧劉, which makes you unhappy and tired.It leads to burnout and other illnesses.
Perfectionism has nothing to do with good performance. It is not the same as ensuring quality.
It is a restrained pattern that sends out the unconscious thinking, doing and feeling of people suffering from it.This way of controlling is not efficient because it ensures continuous stress and makes people unhappy and sometimes also sick.
How do you get perfectionism?
Perfectionism usually arises in childhood as a survival mechanism.At some point a child (usually unconscious) determines that it does not meet, is NOT OK, as it is at that time.This will give the child a way of thinking and developing to be seen (by parents, teachers, family, boyfriends,..) and get confirmation that it is OK.
When does perfectionism become harmful, and does it lead to failure?
This need for external confirmation is often even stronger over the years, and the child’s life and later the adult will be mastered.
In the place of becoming a free adult , we become as the true slave to the pattern.Usually the pattern manages to help people 芒 鈧?虄forward 芒 鈧劉 in life and make Career. But the price paid for it is high. Instead of whistling through life, we are governed by stress, fears, countless mofood, feelings of guilt, etc.
But I believe we as humans are meant to be free adults.Such a person begins to see himself and with respect for his unique being, for his abilities, for his body.From this self-love you can connect with others, with real respect and real love. From that free adulthood, you can also choose a job/career that really suits who you are and what you feel like your mission.So someone puts his thinking and feeling in the service of being free.
But perfectionism does a lot differently with you.It makes your life complicated, full of mofood and stress.Knowing who you really are and what you really want is very difficult and you are not actually working on that. Thinking dominates and often thinking is very tiring.
What symptoms of perfectionism do you recognize?
1.Attachment urge: You do everything to make others happy, you can’t say no, you’re taking away yourself and avoiding conflicts…
2.The bar (too) high leggenfor yourself and others: you want to be the best employee and best parent, everything must be perfect…
3.Fear Of failure and other fears: You leave opportunities at work, feel cramped, have fear of being abandoned, fear of speaking in group…
4.Strong control urge: you like that things are walking like you want, you plant and structure a lot, organizes, makes to-dolists…
5.A lot of thought, often worrying: your negative thoughts revolve circles, you’re not going to action, your inner critic Stata in the foreground, you analyze a lot,…
6.Not quickly satisfied with yourself: You feel Small and unimportant, you are always unsure about Your own being able, you compare yourself with others and feel yourself the lesser, you have a low self-image…
7.Procrastination: You are busy with inhabits and then experience stress to get the deadline, you can’t motivate yourself, you’re constantly out…
8.Difficult to choose or decide: Choosing is losing, you keep on the road, you are doing a long time on a new purchase or you may be difficult to choose from the menu…
9.Continue , do not giveup: You are going over your own limits, you are sick and yet you are going to work, you are allergic to faint people, you remain in a relationship that does not run well…
10.Too great sense of responsibility: for your work, for your children…, you cannot delegate and take on tasks of others…
Can I free myself from perfectionism?
Are you too tired of all that should?
Does perfectionism limit your growth?
Do you want to be more confident in life, feel more free to stand up for what you want?Do you really want to enjoy all the beautiful things you do and find more inner peace?
Then development-oriented coaching of perfectionism (or OCP庐) can help you.It is a powerful methodology that frees you from the pitfalls of perfectionism. Thanks to this methodology, your compulsively changes 芒 鈧?虄must鈩?in a pleasant 芒 鈧?虄want芒 鈧劉 and 芒 鈧?虄can芒 鈧劉.The methodology is based on the principles surrounding internal parts that strongly control our thinking, doing and feeling.
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