Can a narcissist be afraid of being a narcissist?

Can a narcissist be afraid of himself? We cannot look into the thoughts and feelings of others.

It is possible to carry out explorations via tests, questionnaires and methods of brain research.There are statistical surveys and clinical studies. In the same way as Churchill, I do not trust any statistic that I have not made myself – now we do not say “fake” as in the original tone of Winston – we mitigate: make it representable. In psychology, I take note of speculative statements with caution.

The German neurobiologist Gerald Hüther has developed remarkable insights into the biology of fear and how stress become feelings.They are valuable because they are based on scientifically sound considerations.


Recently, Gallup conducted a survey on stress and anxiety on a global basis.In the industrialized nations, fears and fears are on the rise. Stress, anxiety, sadness and emotional pain are climbing to new heights.The UNITED States is leading the way.

Source: Americans’ Stress, Worry and Anger Intensified in 2018

Americans’ Stress, Worry and Anger Intensified in 2018

Fear is a widespread and growing phenomenon. It is just not as visible as we will see in the following by the example of the narcissist.

To the report of the “Gallup 2019 Global Emotions Report”:

Gallup 2019 Global Emotions Report

On the question of the narcissist’s “fear,” I retreat to the observer’s practical position in life.

Because those who ask and conduct interviews receive many answers. You have to find your own opinion and positioning. There are always two sides.Once fear and negative vision – or coping and looking at the positive.

The narcissist is an exaggerated optimizer of his self and an empathic manipulator of the objects of his dominance. To the outside world, he wants to appear perfect – as the “master” of situations and fates.The behavior seems sovereign, flawless and can create moments of fascination.

I agree with the view that a life consists of opposites.We describe them with good and evil, romantic or insensitive, with well-being and depression – to name a few terms. The personal course in life is the art of getting along in a balanced way between opposites.

In the case of narcissists, the conspicuous to morbid focus on perfect dominance creates considerable compensationrequirements.The narcissist cannot show this publicly from his understanding of roles. His outer image would be dismantled. He cannot reveal his shortcomings.

This creates an extraordinary state of tension in the narcissist.He is driven to cover up his stunted self with the “masterful” appearance in the exterior.

I am in line with the view that we can only control ourselves 20-30% with will and logic.70-80% of our will, thinking and acting are influenced by unconscious processes. The vegetative nervous system has a transmitter function and signaling effect for mental-physical dysfunction.

The narcissist is characterized by its one-sidedness by significant vegetative disorders. This manifests itself in fluctuating states of tension, the abrupt alternation between high spirits, conveying enthusiasm and sudden outbursts of anger, to aggressive destructive actions without regard for loss.These operations cannot be explained to the parties because they do not have a logical cause-and-effect relationship.

The statements I have said are daring because they reflect emotionally descriptive experiences.I decode them from the observations of situations and the actors involved over a longer period of time. This applies to extensive project situations and challenging topics of everyday life.

The tension creates anxiety in the narcissist. They manifest themselves in symptoms of oversupply:

  • The fear of losing a prominent position.

This is followed by a retreat into dictatorial loneliness. At the top – at the top – you are alone.The adversaries have been brought down or cold-called before. After that, there are no more friends. There are only purpose allies or enemies left. The environment is clinically clean with clear relations.A devoted team works uncritically and submissively towards the narcissist. High personal safety considerations and fears of illness and unknown influences are spreading. The narcissist wants to make them manageable with sanctions by means of even more control and a claim to perfection.

  • Building networks of interdependencies in closed circles.
  • You play golf together, fly in the same class or in a private jet. Talk only to his peers. Narcissists among themselves, detached from the life of the normal. The lost grip on the ground is compensated by elitist messages of demarcation. You down there, you there beside me, are only there for my purpose.

  • In the family and at partners, complete subordination is demanded and enforced without empathy. Deviations are immediately defeated and sanctioned.
  • Children are educated and trained as vicarious agents of exaggerated perfectionist efforts of the narcissist.Key words are: elitist training and hobbies, symbols with supposedly high external ity in consumption and prestige. Even with little money, smartphones are often more important than healthy eating. Narcissism is not tied to classes or social levels.

    These are three examples of symptoms highlighted by way of example.However, the vegetative nervous system cannot be controlled with the will and logic of the rational method of action. The resulting states of tension in the narcissist are expressed by:

    • Excessive drive for action. Results from the narcissist’s requirements on themselves and stakeholders need to be generated more and more quickly.

    Narcissists can be calculating, but they are under object-related self-set performance pressure. Pharmaceuticals and drugs are taken to calm down and supposedly further improve performance. The narcissist becomes addicted. Studies on traces of cocaine in outstanding institutions, the widespread use of alcohol and benzodrugs (benzodiazepines) can be cited as examples.

  • Disruption of the private environment of friends, families and partnerships.
  • Children suffer severe damage. They either isolate themselves or learn narcissism as a method and apply it themselves. In the business and social environment, partners and social segments can be damaged and deep conflicts can spread.Narcissism is a phenomenon that permeates all areas from private to social groups to society and politics.

  • Escape to compensatory “leisure” activities such as extreme mountaineering, fall from tall buildings or mountain peaks as jump fliers, deep-sea diving, race with machines, learn to fly and control the private jet with dependent occupants.
  • In short: extreme activities that need to be increased due to addiction-like behavior.The narcissist is a “three-weather taffeta” of psychology.

    Analogy of the “Three-Weather-Taft” as a symbol of advertising:

    Three Weather Taft Advertising 1994

    The previous three contrasting examples represent the narcissist’s compulsion to compensate for its deficits. They manifest themselves in cumulative states of fear, but must be concealed from the outside by the narcissist.

    Bernd Kreuzburg has written a remarkable article on the spectrum of narcissism and its social dynamics:…

    In this respect, I think that the narcissist, as a counterpoint to its disposition, has serious, ever-increasing feelings of fear.These seem to be compensated for for a while by the mentioned search-like overlap.However, an addiction never reaches the seplacetable initial effect in the company as after the first tasting. The dose must be constantly increased with increasing decrease in the supposed feeling of relaxation. For this reason, the narcissist will sooner or later collapse at its cumulative state of tension. The soul – by means of the vegetative nevensystem – switches off the body.

    If symptoms such as those mentioned above are present, only a professional analysis with adequate therapy can help.The narcissist must be lifted out of the “perfection garb” above his stunted self-esteem. This is a topic for experts and clinical environments.Since narcissism was acquired exogenously (through experience), it is not genetically pathological and in many cases treatable.

    This is my personal point of view from a life practice.Everyone has to find their own way and inform themselves from different sources.

    The positive is, narcissism can be corrected. Negative is, as a partner or business participant you can do little to help or align. Since the narcissist has no insight into himself through his lack of empathy, he is only the key to his change.

    In most cases, only the collapse of a narcissist leads to the beginning of a change. If the effects are fatal, you as a partner have to go in time to protect yourself (and also children).From a humanitarian point of view, one can be assisted in a “catalyst effect” but not involved.

    In a few cases we can only go “easy” in work and society.We need to use communication techniques for narcissistic environments, learn to live from narcissist to narcissist, so to speak.This becomes more of a feat of “howling with the wolves” and yet not belonging to the pack, and is a special theme.

    Note: References of sources are factual in nature from a purely personal point of view.I do not have any commercial connections with the mentioned links.

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